15 Sex Tips For Women (From Men)


It's hard, especially if you've been a long-term relationship or marriage, to keep the sexy alive. It's easy to fall into a rut when it comes to a romp in the bedroom -- we've all done it -- and harder than ever to come back out of the rut with some new sexy moves.

There's no one better to discuss how to please a man then, well, another man.

Here are 15 suggestions from guys about how to bring the heat back into your relationship:

1. Strap on some sexy stockings and a garter belt.

2. Keep your naughty bits well-maintained. A simple trim can suffice if a bikini wax is an undesirable (ouch!) option.

3. Try a lap-dance or a sexy strip-tease. That doesn't mean you have to spend a fortune on lingerie -- you can easily remove the frumpiest clothes sexily.

4. Sexy texts can really get him going. Send him something like, "I can't wait for you to get home tonight -- got a surprise for you," and, well, give him a surprise!

5. If you're separated by many miles, try phone sex. It may feel weird at first, but it can be wicked sexy if you go with it.

6. Try something new. If your man isn't someone who is loud in the bedroom, explore new territory with him.

7. Lose all your inhibitions. Nothing revs a man up more than knowing that what he's doing to you is driving you wild.

8. Guide him into doing what you like. Take his hand and put it wherever you'd like it to go -- not only is this sexy for you, it's a total turn-on for a guy.

9. Just like women like a blended orgasm (more than one part of the vagina stimulated at the same time), men do, too. Try mixing up a hand-job or a blow-job by playing with his testicles.

10. Talk dirty to him. If you're not used to it, it may feel WAY awkward, but the more you do it, the more second-nature it will become. And there's a bonus! It may turn you on, too.

11. Bust out the sex toys -- remember, they can be multipurpose. Use them to stimulate the shaft of the penis while giving a blow-job to bring him to new heights of orgasm.

12. Switch positions. It's easy to fall into the whole, "We have sex missionary style," or "I'm always on top," but you may find yourself pleasantly surprised by new positions.

13. Make sex a surprise. Put on his favorite pair of underwear and meet him at the door when he comes home from work.

14. Join him in the shower. No reason getting clean can't come AFTER getting dirty.

15. Bring a bunch of pillows into the bedroom. They'll help to achieve -- and enjoy -- new sexual positions.

Do you have any other sex tips to share?


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Kwiat2 Kwiat2

I felt like I was reading Cosmo for a minute there. Which, by the way I stopped reading before I hit 20.

palsgraf palsgraf

Agree with Kwiat2, I had to check what website I was on.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I swear to god, having good sex does not require an effing manual. All these tips and tricks and anecdotes. How about you get naked with your partner and go on an expedition on one another. That's the only way you'll really know how to please "YOUR" man, not "A" man. 

Ari. Ari.

Nothing wrong with sex tips on a mom website, after all, isn't that how most of us became moms?

memek... memekisses

To the first 2 commentators: sorry, some of us like to do more than bake bread and watch soaps all day.

To the 3rd commentator: some people like to do things differently and *gasp* SUPRISE! its not so simple for everyone.

To Ari: Amen!

Me and the hubs like to try out new positions and we like to strip wrestle...its fun! We go back and forth trying to get ones clothes off before the other :)

Lovel... LovelyMom0910

Seem like some things i must try, thanks for the tips ;) its always nice to learn something New

Coburn Coburn

I needed these reminders, thanks!

cocob... cocobeannns

Wow. A little uptight are we? I'm lookin at you first two commenters. I'm not a mom and I enjoy reading alot of the articles on here. Not every post has to be about parenting.

nonmember avatar happytohelp

you see it in the movies but it does work in real life. especially if he is bigger than you. wear one of his shirts, if it buttons in front even better. when you know he will be in the room in a few minutes take everything off, put on his shirt if it has buttons dont button it up, just make sure you cover up some areas with the shirt when you lay down in bed. if your ok with your body and your man loves how you look this will be a big turn on.

butte... butterflyfreak

My husband and I have tried most, if not all, of the suggestions, or at least variations. Really, the most important thing is communication. We have a great sex life, even after almost 7 years together, because we are always willing to try new things and talk to each other about what we like or don't like.

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