Military Marriages May Get Big 'Boost' From Porn Company


I love a great idea, and a great idea that does great things for the marriages of men and women serving our country overseas? Yes, please! Scott Rinaldo, the company manager for RealTouch, a place that makes virtual sex even more intimate with "teledildonics" (dildos controlled through the computer), is hoping to send 1,000 units to Afghanistan and to the military wives back home. It's pure genius.

Rinaldo believes that these dildos, which live in a plastic tube, connect to a computer, warm up, lube up, pulse, and grip, may help those who are apart by many miles. On the other end, the man controls the movements of the dildo through the computer. The truth is, it just may help keep spouses feeling close to one another and may even help lower the divorce rate among military spouses. He also proposes the same for women serving overseas, just with opposite equipment.

Whether the company is doing this for publicity or because of altruism, it's a very good idea, one that really may save many marriages. Since I don't have a spouse in the military, I am not sure how practical this is (is there any privacy?), but the general concept is amazing.

I have a spouse who travels on occasion and we certainly make full use of video chat and texting photos and such, but he is only gone for weeks. The idea of months or even years is maddening. It's the piece missing from all those military reunion videos -- how much must they have missed each other's bodies and touch?

Obviously this can't solve every problem. It's still "virtual," after all. But it can solve some. There would be some amount of intimacy, and given the alternative is none, I am sure most would jump at the chance to try it.

This isn't to say it's the only way spouses would communicate, but this is that missing piece of the puzzle. You can write letters and text to exchange the details of a day. You can video chat and joke to remember each other's faces, but you can't touch each other and have the kind of intimacy that is so vital to the survival of a relationship.

Sex is important. It isn't the be all, end all, of course. Many military and long distance marriages survive without it, but this seems like a perfect compromise. If my husband and I ever found ourselves separated for a long period of time, I would be all about this. It seems like a basic thing that many military families need to help bridge the distance.

Would you ever use something like this?


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nonmember avatar Mommy3

This is just, disgusting. Why do people feel like this kind of stuff is so OKAY to talk about? And why I am the prude, for wishing the world had a little couth? I am 25 years old. I am a young woman, and I cannot believe how LITTLE is kept private now. No wonder no one can keep their husbands. Classless broads. :)

nonmember avatar Laura

I am a Marine wife and my dh deployed in 2011. The Marines that deploy can not have porn or anything like that, so I doubt they would allow this. There is not much privacy at all because the wifi is not that strong and in order to get a good connection, they have to go to a comm center and there can be up to ten other Marines in there at one time. Having been through a deployment, I think this is a very good idea lol, I just dont think they would allow it.

nezling nezling

i'm an army wife, and we've gone through deployments and yes, sometimes it is maddening. while i like this idea, and it would be a tool that would help a little with the loneliness from the lack of intimacy that eventually happens, i'm not sure about the logistics of being able to do this in private on his end. my husband was never in a place that he could videochat yet i know of others who have videochatted with their soldiers but it wasn't in a private area. it's a shame too, because i think it's a good idea.

Theat... Theatregeek

My husbandis gone over seas right now and the "see ya laters" always make the hellos amazing! After being apart its always the best sex we have. Depends on where they are if they even get privicy. I'm not sue the military would go for it. Though that aspect of our marriage is very missed!!!

nonmember avatar Jessi

I think this is an amazing idea. Some people may think the opposite but I was super pregnant while my husband was deployed and this would have been something I would/will be very interested in!!

nonmember avatar Armywife04

Genius!!! To's not about cough or class. It's trying to stay connected with your spouse during year long absences on more than one level. I'm 25 as well, a very classy lady (if Ido say so myself) but after surviving a 15 month and 12 month deployment intimacy is hard to stay connected to when they're gone so long. Romance is abundant during my hubby's deployments but we also love looking to each other for our other "needs" instead of straying. Nezling, I agree...the privacy may be far and few between for many but hey sometimes you can get roommates working on opposite's awesome I promise you lol

nonmember avatar Alethia

While the lack of intimacy is hard, I don't understand why the lack of sex would cause a divorce. You can still have plenty of intimacy without sex. I personally don't use any kind of toys what-so-ever and I am perfectly fine. Sure my husband and I have arguments but it is never over sex or lack of it. Seperations are part of military life. If you can't kept your legs shut or keep it in your pants then don't get married. I'm not saying that toys are bad and that you shouldn't be able to 'fix' the 'yearning' but it should never be the cause of a divorce. Love holds my marriage together, not sex.

nonmember avatar Military Wife

I think this is beyond fantastic!! BRAVO to the company with the idea. My husband and I have used web controlled devices before and it was a fun way to relieve some stress for both of us. There was intimacy there, just not the regular kind. It's about trust and being a little carefree, adventurous, responsive. I'm not entirely sure where "classless broads" comes into play just because not everyone chooses to live out their relationship in the same manner. This is a way to allow couples a kind of closeness that isn't currently available to all. I'd actually donate money to the company to give out MORE! Over the more than a decade of being a military wife I've seen far too many couples far apart for various reasons, but I can't help but suspect the lack of intimacy is a HUGE reason. Again, way to go to the company - I fully believe this is a great idea and should be implemented ASAP!

nezling nezling

good point theatregeek- they military does have strict rules on stuff like that. esp.when they were in iraq, nothing that was remotely risque was allowed. 

xtriciax xtriciax

i deff would not. my hubby is currently deployed (left oct and wont be home till next oct.) problam one being that most men have atleast 1 roommate over there but usually theres 4 if not more. my hubby has his own room (due to his job) and even still there is no sound privacy everything could be heard. and while that could be worked around i personally wouldnt feel comfortable being that much of a "porn star". not a prude by any means, im 23 been married almost 4 yrs but i deff wouldnt go this far. this is our 2nd deployment and although the lack of sex through a deployment sucks if your relationship has depth in it then you learn to appreciate the times that you can be intamite that much more. it should make you stronger not break you apart.

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