Every few months, there is a post on my Facebook feed from someone who is "disgusted" by displays of love on Facebook. The passive aggression is just too funny, of course, but I see the point. It can be kind of eye-rollingly annoying to have a feed full of love.
"My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world," my friend Mark's status might read. The next day, his wife's status is this: "Alice think she has the most wonderful husband in history." It's always certain couples and it sure can get cringe-worthy, but for the most part, I like it. The fact is, unless you know the couple personally and know that they're overcompensating for a less-than-stellar relationship, then it's nice to see two people in love.
There is far too much hating going on in the world and far too little loving. So why does it annoy people so much?
Singer Pink and her husband of six years Carey Hart recently took to Twitter to profess their love. "Happy anniversary to my beautiful wife who I love so much," Hart tweeted last week. While some might groan at the public use of technology to express love, I say why not?
The only time it grosses me out is when I know the couple in question is just faking their "love" to get attention or to feign perfection. But for most couples, it's just how they feel. I know I am very guilty of this.
I would guess half my Facebook friends want to puke each time I post about my love for my spouse, but the fact is, I do love him and I want to declare it. If I am feeling it, why wouldn't I say it? And a better question might be: Why does it bother you? Are you really so unhappy in your own life and marriage that you feel the need to knock someone else's? If so, you have bigger problems than some affectionate Facebook pals.
This all goes back to the question of PDA and how it really grosses some people out to even see a couple holding hands. Why? Isn't that a nice thing? A worthy thing? Something we should want to see more of?
Truthfully, when I see two friends who have been married as long as I have who have more than one child and full-time jobs who can still express love for one another, I am happy. It makes me happy. When I see a cousin who is recently married declaring her love for her new husband, it makes me feel good about my marriage and makes me smile for her. And when my younger friend who just got engaged waxes on and on about her love for her fiance, my heart soars for her.
If you have a problem with "love" on Facebook, then maybe you are the one with the problem, not the lovebirds themselves.
Does love on Facebook annoy you?
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