Rapper T.I. Has Trained His Wife, Now All She Has to Do Is Fetch & Roll Over


ti, tinyI generally don’t watch reality TV, mostly because I’m content to have graduated from the phase of my own life that was riddled with drama. So there’s no feasible reason why I’d want to be a voyeur to someone else’s beefs, squabbles, and falling outs, which seem to be the major selling points of just about every show.

That being said, I have seen an episode or two of The Family Hustle on VH1, and it’s actually pretty cute.

One thing I’ve consistently noticed — on the show and in their interviews and just about every time I see them together — is that T.I. is definitely, without a doubt, head of the relationship, to the point I’d call him controlling. Did you see them on the Wendy Williams Show last month? (Howyoudoin, by the way? I love me some Wendy!)

Anyway, watch how he intercepts this question directed at her: 

The audience likes it. I guess they’re hooting and hollering for the take-charge, alpha male persona. Apparently they’re fans of manly men who operate in a me-Tarzan-you-Jane kind of way. But I had to give the situation a slow head shake.

If I were her, my man would have one, maybe two times to cut me off and offer up thoughts on my behalf before I pulled him into the green room and gave him a little pep talk about me having a fully functioning mind and mouth of my own. But alas, that’s not Tiny’s M.O.

Here’s the whole interview in case you missed it.

This isn’t an isolated incident. I’ve heard Tiny say, on several occasions in several arenas, that T.I. doesn’t want her to work even though she’s gunning to get back into music. I see from the show that she’s eeked out permission to launch a nail bar with a partner, but I suspect that everything she does, even from a professional perspective, needs to have the T.I. stamp of approval on it before it can get off the tarmac.

As pro-girl power womanist as I am, I’m OK with the idea of a man being the head of a family. There should be a strong partnership between both people in the relationship, don’t get me wrong. Lord strike me down right here and now if I ever get caught up in some obsequious, my-husband-calls-all-the-shots scenario. (I think The Boyfriend can attest that chances of that happening are LeAnn Rimes slim.) But I do believe if you marry a good man, there’s no harm in allowing him to make major decisions for the lot of you.

That said, I’ve got a voice and I’m darn sure gonna use it.

Whatever works for Tiny and T.I. They’ve been together forever, though I suspect that’s largely because she’s that ride-or-die chick who’s down for her man no matter how many times he gets locked up, how many mistakes he makes, or how many times he robs her of the ability to think an original thought (even though, let’s be honest, Tiny ain’t gunning to be a philosopher any time soon).

What are some sure signs a man is controlling? 

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jalaz77 jalaz77

My hubby (fiancé at the time) traded in his car for a new one, when his old one worked PERFECTLY and it was only 3 years old, still had that new car smell. I was not happy at all, pissed actually, and lectured him because now he had a higher car payment and didn't discuss it with me. His mom says well ya have to be supportive and I said um not when it messes with our finances, I had a family that always talked about this stuff. I knew right there my MIL was a push over and I was NOT so we were rarely going to see eye to eye. Husband agreed to always talk about situations such as this. No way does he ever make big decisions for us. He said he loved me because I am not a follower, I stand up for myself so he wouldn't do something so selfish like that again, 10 yrs together and he hasn't. His mom has that "old fashioned" theory of women, do what the guy says cause I am a doormat. Tiny is dumb if she thinks this is love, she is a damn puppet, it won't last!

ashja ashja

Wow, that's a LOT of stupid, desperate women in one place at one time...

nonmember avatar Who?

Who ARE those people? Why does every black person need a nick name? That's the reason I never watched "Jersey Shore", I just can't take someone with a stage name like "Smoochie" and "The Scenario" seriously.

2love 2love

My man knows Im outspoken... I have a very voicey opinion. I cant just sit back and let him run everything even if he does a nice job because i see men run families into the ground way too many times.

nonmember avatar Guest

I think they clapped because they took it as him sticking up for her....I agree if you take that out of context it would look controlling, and I have no clue what they look like on their show or anything else but in that particular situation when you take into account what they were talking about it looked (to me) like he was kind of sticking up for her like "why would that even be a question....I wouldn't let me wife take the rap for something illegal I did" type of response not "me tarzan you jane...me answer, you shut-up" like you are making it sound

jinxmom jinxmom

She couldn't get a word in so why exactly was she there lol  idk if he was in protect mode or thought she would say the wrong thing [sigh]

nonmember avatar Em

It could also be that she isn't as comfortable as he is in those types of situations and would prefer him to answer for her. We simply don't know as we are not part of their relationship. (as a caveat, I've never seen their show or know anything about their relationship)

nonmember avatar Wow


wifey... wifey2013

Tiny is an outspoken strong woman and I don't think she let's T.I control her. There is a such thing as having respect for your husband! Wendy was being disrespectful askin questions that was none of her bizniz and T.I basically stepped n 2 say "stay da fuck up out my bidness! Cuz its mine oh mine!" Lol. T.I and Tiny both held their ground and handled that situation with such class.T.I definitely not controlling! But of course people would criticize a strong educated black man who knows how to treat his woman and who is trying to leave the past in the past and try to live a better life for him n his family! Smh sorry had 2 vent! Lls

mrsdi... mrsdiaz31

I do not think hes controlling, and if he is she been with him so long, they have great kids, and they love each other dearly so obvisouly they are doing something right. I love them! Im so happy for them and i wish them the best. Their show is awsome.

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