Reese Witherspoon Offers Single Ladies a Valuable Lesson


reese witherspoon on cover of elleReese Witherspoon is one of the Hollywood elite I could actually see myself going shopping with. She's so talented, but seems very down-to-earth, grounded, sweet. Maybe that's why ever since her marriage to Ryan Phillipe fell apart, I've been rooting for her to find happiness. Well, it seems she has, with new hubby Jim Toth ... a guy who at one time, she could have never seen herself ending up with, believe it or not!

The actress talked to ELLE recently and said, "[Jim] really surprised me. You don't know who you're going to end up with. When I was 20, if you'd asked me ... I wouldn't have said Jim." Super important lesson right there for all the single ladies!

Most women often have preconceived notions of what our Mr. Right is going to be like. I was guilty of it ... In typical Virgo fashion, in my early teens, I made a list of minutiae -- down to the eye color!! -- I wanted my soul mate to have. I assumed he'd be someone who had his Masters degree (probably, maybe PhD, who knows), maybe another writer, bilingual, etc. The list had close to 50 traits at least.

Even once I got over all of that and grew up a bit more, while dating in my early 20s, I was convinced I was looking for a certain "type." And when he IMed me on JDate, the love of my life almost slipped through my fingertips ... because his photography/scanning and (judging from his profile) writing skills seemed to be lacking. Ahhhhh -- completely CRAZY! What the heck was I thinking?! If I hadn't given him a shot, I would have missed out on the smartest, sweetest, most loving guy, one who I now could care less doesn't have his Masters, write professionally, speak two languages (but he was bar mitzvahed!).

Sadly, a lot of us at some point think, "I'm going to marry a guy like [the bad boy/the nice Jewish guy/the international traveler business type/whatever]." But by doing that, we stand in our own way of finding love. It seems to me that it's when we let go of that "type" or "list" that we end up finding Mr. Right. You can trust Reese -- she's finally happy, after all.

Did you have a preconceived notion of who you'd end up with? Have you ended up with that type or someone totally different?


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Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I wasn't even looking. I was eighteen with no interest in guys or dating or any of that nonsense. I'd only been out on my own for a couple of months. My hubby started chatting to me in a bar and that was that. We were friends and then we were more.

clg1213 clg1213

i spent eight years (half married) with the guy who was perfect on paper but wrong in reality.  for the past year, i've been with someone who'd never have looked "right" on a checklist but with whom i've felt more love in 12 months than i ever knew before.  it just works...i may be a liberal pacifist but i love my republican military man!

kerwo... kerwolfe712

After a series of bad relationships, I took time off dating and men to decide what I really wanted. After that, I met and married a wonderful man who is absolutely nothing like any of the other men I had dated.  There was a reason my "type" wasn't working out for me; picking out a type never works.  You have to look past the type and find out who somebody really is to fall in love.  

nonmember avatar Lindsey

I had no idea my boyfriend and I would end up together. I thought he was cute but didn't really know, and then I freaked out when he randomly messaged me on Facebook. 6 months later and boom. We were together. He's way fantastic and kind and smart, and way hotter than anyone I ever thought I'd be able to end up with. Go me! :P

nonmember avatar Jessie

You mean "couldn't care less."

If you could care less, then you do care a little.

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