Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel's Engagement Has All the Signs of Success

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justin timberlake and jessica biel walk hand in handSome of us may have thought we'd never see this day come. But it has! In the wake of a cornucopia of holiday-time celeb engagements, it looks like Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel are the latest to decide on saying "I do," according to insider sources at Us Weekly. Although they've been described as "on again, off again," they have spent the better part of the past five years as a couple.

For a while there, it looked like JT was going to hold off and do the Leo DiCaprio perpetual bachelor thing. Or maybe even try an unmarried partners Angie-Brad setup with Jess. After all, the guy is an Aquarius -- the sign least likely to settle down, and when/if they do, they still want to be unconventional. But looks like tradition and old-fashioned romance has won in the end for Justin. As the five-year girlfriend of another Aquarian (born only a couple weeks after ol' JT, by the way), I gotta say, there should be absolutely no "tsk"-ing about how long it took these two to get engaged.  

In my experience, there are people out there who want to tell women they're dumb doormats if their guy hasn't asked her to marry him within X timeframe. If he hasn't asked you to spend a lifetime with him within a year, three years, or five years (whatever their preferred time frame), they'll say it's time to give him an ultimatum or move on. I bet anything that when JT and Jess split up for three months last year, it had something to do with her feeling like he was dragging his feet with popping the question.

And if in your heart of hearts, you want to walk away from a guy because he's not adhering to some arbitrary timeframe for getting engaged, that's fine. But to think there's a conventional "standard" for timing for getting engaged is totally closeminded and archaic.

Although some might balk at a couple taking as long as Justin and Jessica did to get engaged, there are guys who just happen to take longer than others, and there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't realize she's "the one," or that there are other problems or insecurities in the relationship. It may mean he's just putting the weight and thought into "forever" that too many couples seem to forget these days. I know couples who took seven years to get engaged, others who took five (and a breakup), and one who planned a wedding, broke up, got back together, and are now married for five years with two kids.

The bottom-line: We all have different time lines for reaching our wedded bliss. In a time when famous couples are calling it quits after 72 days or 14 months, lovebirds like JT and Jessica Biel who took five years to make sure marriage is what they want deserve credit -- not criticism.

Are you surprised JT popped the question? Do you think there's a standard timeframe for getting engaged?

 

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Akgirl85 Akgirl85

I think it a guy knows-he knows. It shouldn't take so long. Rumors were that he cheated on her. They just broke up. And then she took him right back. Those things don't ring promising engagement to me.

nonmember avatar Maxine

I agree with the previous comment. The author just sounds really bitter if you ask me, has someone been stuck in a longterm relationship without the promise of "forever?" People in relationships should already have an idea of what they want. If you don't know what you want, don't be in a relationship.

Guest27 Guest27

Like the author, I think some people tend to feel that there should be a timeline when getting married. Some people may become engaged in very little time (like Khloe Kardashian) and some people take a much longer time to become engaged, or have a long courtship (Oprah). I dislike how people feel like they have a right to comment on the length of one's dating prior to engagement. My boyfriend and I met when we were 19 & 20. We are now 26 & 27 and we have never broken up. We have both been loyal in our relationship. I think it is rude when people ask me "When are you getting engaged?" What do they expect the answer to be? Tomorrow, in a couple months? I don't know! Nor do I care! My boyfriend and I wanted to be able to live our own individual lives, finish our schooling and secure our careers before we get engaged. Just because were not engaged doesn't mean we're not committed. People act like I should be upset that I'm not engaged, or that I should be dying to get married. Once you're married then people will set you on a timeline to have kids! Something I'm not in a rush to accomplish right now. I think it's strange that people expect me to want to be married... I'm in a healthy relationship and I'm in no rush... maybe its because I'm an aquarius ;)

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