justin timberlake and jessica biel walk hand in handSome of us may have thought we'd never see this day come. But it has! In the wake of a cornucopia of holiday-time celeb engagements, it looks like Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel are the latest to decide on saying "I do," according to insider sources at Us Weekly. Although they've been described as "on again, off again," they have spent the better part of the past five years as a couple.

For a while there, it looked like JT was going to hold off and do the Leo DiCaprio perpetual bachelor thing. Or maybe even try an unmarried partners Angie-Brad setup with Jess. After all, the guy is an Aquarius -- the sign least likely to settle down, and when/if they do, they still want to be unconventional. But looks like tradition and old-fashioned romance has won in the end for Justin. As the five-year girlfriend of another Aquarian (born only a couple weeks after ol' JT, by the way), I gotta say, there should be absolutely no "tsk"-ing about how long it took these two to get engaged.  

In my experience, there are people out there who want to tell women they're dumb doormats if their guy hasn't asked her to marry him within X timeframe. If he hasn't asked you to spend a lifetime with him within a year, three years, or five years (whatever their preferred time frame), they'll say it's time to give him an ultimatum or move on. I bet anything that when JT and Jess split up for three months last year, it had something to do with her feeling like he was dragging his feet with popping the question.

And if in your heart of hearts, you want to walk away from a guy because he's not adhering to some arbitrary timeframe for getting engaged, that's fine. But to think there's a conventional "standard" for timing for getting engaged is totally closeminded and archaic.

Although some might balk at a couple taking as long as Justin and Jessica did to get engaged, there are guys who just happen to take longer than others, and there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't realize she's "the one," or that there are other problems or insecurities in the relationship. It may mean he's just putting the weight and thought into "forever" that too many couples seem to forget these days. I know couples who took seven years to get engaged, others who took five (and a breakup), and one who planned a wedding, broke up, got back together, and are now married for five years with two kids.

The bottom-line: We all have different time lines for reaching our wedded bliss. In a time when famous couples are calling it quits after 72 days or 14 months, lovebirds like JT and Jessica Biel who took five years to make sure marriage is what they want deserve credit -- not criticism.

Are you surprised JT popped the question? Do you think there's a standard timeframe for getting engaged?

 

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