Katherine Heigl's Thoughts on One-Night Stands Are Spot-On

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katherine heigl on cover of cosmo ukKatherine Heigl, who we get to see in the latest rip-off of Love Actually ensemble cast rom-com New Year's Eve, flaunts it in a sparkly pink dress on the cover of the January 2012 issue of Cosmopolitan UK. Inside, she chats with the mag about marriage, cheating, sex, and acting. But one of the best insights by far is regarding single life and one-night stands.

Heigl said, "I don't like [one-night stands]. I've never met a single woman who has ever walked away from a one-night stand and been like, 'That was awesome! Oh, my god! Best ever!'"

As much as I initially wanted to disagree with her, argue that she's so obviously behind the post-Carrie Bradshaw times, and sing the praises of women having no-strings-attached, wham-bam-thank-you-sir single episode trysts, I just can't! Katherine really does make an excellent point.

We should be able to enjoy one-night stands as much "as the guys," but the truth is ... I don't think anyone, in their heart of hearts, really wants a one-night stand. We might think we do, but in reality, we just want someone else's company or touch. And we'd much prefer to have a connection that lasts a lot longer than between 1 a.m. and daybreak. 

Even a hookup that marks the beginning of a string of hookups or a friends-with-benefits situation is better than a straight-up one-night stand with a total stranger! Even if you consciously pursued it, the latter has the ability to leave you feeling, well, used. Definitely not awesome.

Don't get me wrong ... I'm not saying women who want them shouldn't be able to have them. Single women should definitely reserve their right to try a one-night stand and see how they fare. But I just wouldn't be surprised if, more often than not, they're left feeling ridiculous, regretful, or just plain sad.

Case in point: In college, high on single-in-the-city empowerment, I was certain I wanted a one-night stand. I even actively orchestrated one with a complete stranger. But I ended up falling for the guy HARD, and whatever it was we had spiraled into a messy, toxic situation that dragged on for years. And other attempts at one-off hookups left me feeling either sort of silly or frustrated the guy wasn't material for more. Bad news, but great proof that Katherine knows what's up. More power to ladies who can actually pull 'em off, but for many of us, one-night stands are probably best avoided altogether.

How do you feel about one-night stands?

 

Image via Cosmo UK

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Tatto... TattooedDarling


Frankly, the only issue I have with one night stands is the need to get tested right away. Beyond that, I’ve had some friggin’ amazing one night stands and very few regrets. I’ve never felt sad or ridiculous after one. I don’t use them as rebound sex, so there’s no reason to be upset. I’m not in a position where it makes sense to attempt a serious relationship, so flings, FWNBs, and ONSs are perfect for me. If you get attached easily or can’t separate sex and love, then no. One nighters aren’t a wise idea, but I’m very much the opposite. 


cocob... cocobeannns

I've never had one. I couldn't just sleep with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. If I don't care about the person, I'm not sleeping with them. Nothing against anyone who has, I know alot of people have. It's just not me.

nonmember avatar Shelly

I have a hard time believing anyone with an ounce of self respect, would engage in one night stands. I mean, how stupid and pathetic can a person be???

Samal... Samallama

I don't think one night stands make a person stupid or pathetic. I think it suits some people because they just don't get emotionally attached easily. And whats wrong with someone not wanting to be in a relationship? I mean if someone likes being single, why should they have to go without sex as well?


It's not for me personally, but I can see the appeal. I don't know why some people have to be so close minded. 

Stacey Busenbark Sanders

Hmmm...I have had some one night stands before I was married and doubt anyone considers me stupid or pathetic! I also have not had any regret-I am an adult and I knew what I was doing.

nonmember avatar Shelly

I guess I just haven't met anyone who sits down and talks about their sexual history's before having a one night stand. Or, what they would do in the event of birth control failing. Or, if they you know...aren't psycho The little things, that happen to be huge things. I think engaging in behavior like that, shows you don't know what you are doing. It shows you are reckless with your own body. If someone wants to do that, fine. It doesn't mean I can't view it as stupid and pathetic. It's an opinion. People are allowed to feel completely different then me.

butte... butterflymkm

I think it depends on th mindset of the person going into it. If you know it's just a hookup and you can seperate yor emotions you will be fine. If you are wanting a relationship with that person on some level you will probably get burned.

nonmember avatar ele4phant

@Shelly. I'm a person who's had a few one night stands, although I disagree that I am (well, was - those days are done) stupid or pathetic. And while I suppose that the few one night stands I had did not result in earth shatteringly good sex, they are still experiences I value and have contributed to who I am now. I was young, exploring who I was and what I wanted. I don't regret them at all. I certainly don't think they are a must-do for everyone, but give those of us who've been there a break for making choices you didn't.

ashja ashja

Never had one, never wanted one, but no one should be telling consenting adults what to do in bed and with whom....

Judes... JudesMama7411

I think her point was that very few woman have fantastic sex with a one night stand. I've had one night stands but I truly find relationship sex the best. I love the monogamous sex I've had for the past 3 years. @Shelly, I think you are stupid and pathetic for being so close minded in this modern world. Just because you don't engage in something it's stupid and pathetic? You are quite narcissistic and obviously have too high self esteem. Hope that works out for you.

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