Your man almost definitely looks at porn. Some of us already know this, accept it, and move on, but others will say "maybe your man, but not mine" and insist that their man would never look at porn because "he isn't that kind of guy." Well, sister. You are wrong. Just about every man looks at porn, and if he says he doesn't, then he is lying. And now a new product lets women catch their men in that lie.

Find His Porn purports to sweep his hard drive in a secretive way and deliver all the information on his porn straight to the person who ordered the sweep. While it may seem like a great idea, it's actually a relationship killer.

If you have to search for his porn and it bothers you so much that he is doing what 99 percent of all men do, then you are already in trouble. Further, the lack of trust that makes a person do something like this is staggering.

A few years ago, a woman I know was beside herself with anger that her husband was looking at porn and she didn't approve of it. She threatened to leave him unless he stopped. He agreed to stop, though I am sure didn't stop looking. He just did it more secretly.

When she told me the story, I assumed she meant he was looking at violent porn or gay porn or even child porn given how angry she was. "It was like girls and guys like having sex," she said (I am paraphrasing). I sat, shocked for a moment. She was upset about that?

It wasn't sick or twisted, it wasn't depraved or illegal. It was porn. And she totally flipped out. Maybe this product would be great for someone like her, but for most of us who are in healthy, normal relationships where we actually communicate, honesty is the order of the day.

A husband shouldn't have to hide his porn any more than a wife should have to hide her shopping habits or interests or even her porn. If a husband and wife can't talk about their fantasies and be honest with one another, then they have much bigger problems than just looking at some porn.

Do you care if your husband looks at porn?

 

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