Understanding the Female Orgasm Is Actually Very Simple


embroidered brainIt seems like ever since the dawn of time, female sexuality has been treated as not only taboo, but incredibly mysterious. Men act like we're the most complicated beings on the planet, and turning us on is one of the biggest challenges EVER. Although I wouldn't argue that we are complex (a lot more so than guys, in plenty of ways!), I'm not sure why researchers think that understanding our orgasms is on par with rocket science. I do give 'em props for finally giving the "female brain on sex" enough credit to study it.

Recently, Professor Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a psychologist at Rutgers University, and Nan Wise, a 54-year-old PhD student and sex therapist, joined forces to create the world's first footage of a female brain during orgasm. They used sequential brain scans of Wise herself -- it's her dissertation, after all! -- and concluded that the orgasm process in us ladies basically looks like a "brain symphony." Woo woo!

This is all very cool, but I worry about how science plans to apply findings like this. Already, it's been reported that the aim of this study was to "uncover what goes wrong in both men and women who cannot reach sexual climax." Uh-huh ... given how hungry the pharmaceutical industry is for a "female Viagra," I wouldn't be surprised if this research is the first step toward attempting (again, as it's been tried recently and failed) to design something like that. If so, it definitely wouldn't be doing women any favors!

Hopefully, I'm just being a healthy skeptic who has seen what happens when drug companies get their hooks in the uber-profitable idea of "female sexual dysfunction." Hopefully, Nan Wise and Dr. Komisaruk are more interested in investigating natural, mind-over-body ways for women and men to achieve orgasm more readily.

After all, there's plenty of research out there echoing what most of us women already know. Most of the time, for most of us, it's not some bizarre brain dysfunction or chemistry issue prohibiting us from the Big O! It's more so stress, distractions, our minds going a mile a minute, or lacking foreplay that leads to the aforementioned things hindering a climax. And it doesn't take a pill to fix any of those things. Strategies like mindful meditation or simply warming up the engine a little bit before going for the full-on road trip would probably work wonders for most women struggling with orgasm. With hope, those are kinds of "Band-Aids" sex researchers will end up exploring as a result of these sexy new MRIs.

Why do you think most women who can't reach climax struggle?


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nonmember avatar blh

I don't think a female Viagra would work because female sexuality is kinda mental. Though maybe this isn't the case for all women who have problems reaching climax

witch... witchkiss

Female viagra already exists in a natural form: Damiana

Brenda Wolf


I think it is great that female orgasm is being talked about and have us consider what we think. It is an important subject that is of great relevance to relationships.


I myself look to "hands-on" female orgasm researchers for the best information.

I found the Bodansky who wrote "Instant Orgasm and especially the Welcomed Consensus who are "hands-on female orgasm researchers and sex educators, and have the latest cutting edge information on female orgasm.


The Welcomed Consensus research female orgasm, "hands-on", 365 days a year, and have for over 25 years. My partner and I have used their Deliberate Orgasm practice that gave birth to Slow Sex. We love the DVD "Orgasm at the First Touch", that has a live demonstration and the step by step on how to give and how to receive orgasm at the first touch.


Thank you to Professor Barry Komisaruk and his team for the study talked about in this article.

I do wonder though what would be discovered if they did an MRI of a totally different kind of orgasm than the traditional model of orgasm observed in this article: an MRI of a woman experiencing orgasm at the first touch. This deliberate orgasm practice could give some serious new insights into female sexuality; it did for us and took our sex life to a new level of fun and enjoyment. Female Orgasm videos and a lot of free information can be found at www.welcomed.com along with the latest on female sexuality.



nonmember avatar Bob

The Hite Report was a big clue for me. She could have orgasims with the first hubby but couldn't stand him. Second hubby she loved and never could reach the big O with him.

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