Love & Sex

Is your libido hidden somewhere under the piles of dirty diapers? Has your sex life taken a backseat to life? Are you struggling to bring the sexy back? Don't worry. You're not alone. Been there. More times than I care to count.

Here are some tips for helping you to bring the sexy back so you, too, can be a raging sex kitten once again!

Ditch the butts. Sure we all know that smoking is terrible for you. It causes lung cancer, low birth weight, and makes you smell (and taste!) like an ashtray (among other things). Cigarettes also, however, narrow the blood vessels to the genitals and decrease sex drive. And trust me, the more blood flowing, the better.

Chill out with the boozing. Sure, throwing back a glass or three of wine can help loosen you up and get you in the mood for some sexy-time. But, because alcohol is classified as a depressant, too much of a good thing is not a good thing.

Shake your money-maker. We all know how good exercise is for your physical health. It makes you feel better about the way you look and (here's the important bit) improves blood flow to the genitals. The more blood flow, the more sensations, and the better the orgasms.

Rub it out. Massages can reduce stress and anxiety and help get you in the mood to get down and dirty. Take off your clothes, use some delicious smelling massage oil, and let your partner go to town. You'll get rid of some of that pesky stress, get the blood flowing, and relax. The physical touch may entice you to turn that into something more sexual.

Remember: you're WORTH it! Suffering from low self-esteem, feeling badly about the way you look, stress and anxiety, those are all things that can decrease your sex drive. So take some time for yourself to do something that makes you feel good about being you! The better you feel about yourself, the more likely you are to get in the mood for some sex.

Which one are you trying tonight?

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