Dr. Oz Gives Sexy Relationship Advice We All Should Try

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dr oz and wife lisaEveryone! Drop what you're doing, call your husband, and get busy. Dr. Oz and his wife Lisa sat down with Shape magazine for their November issue and shared details about how they keep the love flame burning after having been married for 26 years. The key? Something about lighting "your own damn candles" (we'll get to that) and having a ton of sex. Hey! Now there's something interesting.

Dr. Oz, who's been Oprah's medical guru since 2004 and who now has his own show, says that sexual intimacy is of the utmost importance if you want to have a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship. His prescription is sex with your partner twice a week, every week.

Whoa ho ho, there, Ozzy! That is a heap-ton of pressure. I'm sure that's not his intention, but dang, once you start telling people how many times a week to have sex in order to have a "healthy" relationship, it might make couples too anxious to perform. He argues that it's been scientifically proven that sex twice a week adds three years to your life and, while that may be true, I think his wife Lisa's advice is more manageable.

Lisa told Shape that they're a happy couple because she's found ways to make her own bliss. 

For years I wanted Mehmet to work less and play with me more. I've come to realize you can’t sit around and wait for the other person to do the things you want to do. If you want him to be more romantic, be more romantic yourself. In other words, light your own damn candles!

To me, that totally makes sense. Sometimes in long-term relationships, we get bored with our partners but put the onus on them to spice things up. Sounds like Lisa takes matters into her own hands, and it sounds like it's been working for them. She goes on to say that having sex as much as possible is also beneficial because once that spark goes out, it's hard to rekindle.

I'm digging the Ozes' advice. As long as couples make sex and their happiness a priority, they'll be successful in the long run. And that's some health tip -- lots easier to follow than, say, eating less and exercising. More sex for everyone!

What do you think of the Ozes' relationship advice?

 

Photo via Shape.com

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lil_m... lil_momma0911

That sounds awesome if we didn't have a baby that wakes up 2-5 times a night! I need my sleep!

irons... ironsister

I think the advice is good.


However, I think other things must be present in the marriage.  Lots of sex alone won't keep the love or spark of it alive if you are not respected and valued by your spouse.


I tried it and it didn't work.  Gave it to him when he wanted it, how he wanted it.  My needs weren't even on the list.  I was hoping he would love and respect me again if I gave him more, and it didn't.  Sex was just another thing my Ex thought he was entitled to.


 

Samal... Samallama

2 times a week can be hard to reach sometimes. I think it depends on the couple. Some people are happier with less sex. The problem is when one person likes a lot of sex and the other one is not so sex orientated. 

nonmember avatar blh

The important thing is for couples to be on the same page about how much sex they should be having. And all the sex in the world wont make you're relationship if there are other issues

Amanda Heritage

I know people said that sex alone won't create a happy relationship.. but I don't think I read where Dr. Oz or his wife said that all their relationship consists of is sex.

nonmember avatar e. degtoff

what does he have to say to all the unmarried females? what about widows?
what about older (70 +) women?

Elizabeth Degtoff

what does he have to say to unmarried women?  to widows?  to older women (70+)?  I agree that sex is important -- but a lot of women 50+ get dropped for trophy wives half the age of wife #1 - what is the x-wife to do?


 

nonmember avatar Liz

@Elizabeth- he's discussing how a couple can keep their relationship strong, so that really has nothing to do with single women...

Bonnie Bruns Williams

I like that advice - we have 4 kids and we are BUSY.We have the best intentions but sleep usually robs us of our sexy time! It's funny, I do usually wait for him to "light the candles"; think I will take this advice tonight! Who doesn't want to have a few years more to live?!

Janice Johnstone

As long as both people make an effort to keep the relationship alive; whether by having more sex or simply showing appreciation for one another, that really is what marriage is all about and that is what keeps marriages from falling apart.

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