For those of you who think your sexuality is fixed and stationary and never changes, you are missing a whole rainbow of colors. In fact, 60 percent of women are bi-curious and have fooled around in some way with another woman. And I'm not a bit surprised. Sexuality is never simply black and white.
The fact is, women, especially as they age, are going to be attracted to women. We are encouraged to have close, emotional friendships, and often as that desire to be closer grows, so too do the Sapphic ones.
When we are younger, we may be more reserved about our sexuality, less willing to experiment (or more willing to just be silly and daring, but not sincere). Once we have been around the block, we are more comfortable with ourselves and our sexuality and we will experiment more.
Sexuality has never been one or the other, as much as many (especially men) would like to believe it is. Sure, there are people who are 0s or 10s on the scale, meaning they are ultra-straight or ultra-homosexual. But, like any continuum, that means most people are in the middle.
This is the truth. We are programmed by our upbringing as to whether we act on those feelings. I am grateful every day that I grew up in a home where my parents were well-educated, open, well-traveled, and comfortable with themselves or others. I have always known I could be whatever I wanted to be.
I happen to be on the straighter end of the spectrum, it's true. But I also don't think it's impossible to change as you age in either direction. We need to get past this idea of gay and straight and accept that most people are somewhere in between. We would be a much happier, more sexually fulfilled society if we did.
Too few people are getting good sex and the kind that fulfills them. That is a sad truth. Maybe if we opened our minds, we would see that happiness is just an expanded color palette away.
Do you think these numbers seem right?
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