Bad Girls Really Do Get More Guys


bad girlPsychiatrist Carole Lieberman thinks she's got men all figured out, and since I'm too daft to know otherwise, let's assume that she does. Let's assume that she's the Dr. Love we've been looking for, that she's the Mr. Miyagi to our Daniel LaRusso, the George Washington to our Revolutionists, the answer to our prayers. In her new book, Bad Girls, Lieberman extols the virtues of being, predictably, a bad girl. Intrigued?

Remember when we were told to stop playing games and just be ourselves? Scratch that. It's now all about how to act the part of the bad girl to snatch the guy. Here's how to play.

According to Dr. Lieberman, a bad girl is like a wily woman who utilizes the old bait-and-switch tactic:

[A bad girl] is like a skilled fisherman. She lets the bait dangle close to the fish’s mouth, then she pulls it away. Then she lets it dangle, then she pulls it away, with the soft to-and-fro of the current, until the next time the fish sees the bait, he can’t help but swallow it, hook, line, and sinker.

She makes it sound so easy! Yet at the same time, so impossible! Lieberman isn't pulling her theories outta nowhere though -- she did hardcore research and interviewed tons of guys and girls on the subject of the elusive bad girl. And what she found is that being a toying, mysterious woman is what men want and what men will commit to.

Lieberman even makes the argument that your favorite royal and mine, Duchess Catherine, used bad girl ways to woo her prince. Her see-through dress and the fact that she went out partying with other guys when he broke up with her only helped their relationship. Prince William couldn't resist Kate's allure, and now she lives in a castle and has the best hair of anyone on the planet. Point: Lieberman.

I'm not so sure about all of this, but I do believe there's some truth to Lieberman's research. Saying that men fall for "bad girls" though is kind of irksome -- if "bad girls" are sexy and independent, why doesn't she say that men are falling for sexy and independent women? I'm sure it's an entertaining read (aren't all self-help books?) and I'd be interested to learn more about her philosophy. Just kidding! No I'm not. Yes I am! No I'm not. Yes! No. Yes! (Am I being bad girl enough?)

What do you think of the bad girl theory?


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nonmember avatar Mike M

It depends on what kind of guy the woman wants to attract. If she's happy with a guy who's happy with a woman who plays games with him (and maybe many men are likely to be attracted such women, but who knows if that'll lead to a happy relationship; I personally would prefer to be with a woman who's more mature than that) then that's likely to be the kind of guy that a woman would get.

Marjc... Marjchaos

I used to be the nice girl, that like the nice guys who were all madly in love with Bitches. Yeah. They kept the nice guys around like pets. When their bad boy boyfriend dumped them, or they felt fat, or they had a bad day, they could always turn to nice guy for an ego boost.  This did require they give him the occasional attention so he wouldn't lose interest in them or get together with anyone else. Yeah. Nice guys finish? Only because just like the stupid girls who date abusive criminals, they fall for the naughty ones.

nonmember avatar LR

Yup, Kate Middleton cuckolded (cheated on) Prince William while they were dating by going wild and partying with other guys and had to split up with her because he couldn't tolerate it but then got back together again with her to go through such torture from her man-eating ways. Imagine if Princess Diana even saw this, boy she will scold Kate Middleton and warn Prince William about her! Prince William is such a cuckold indeed.

But, unfortunately, in the USA, guys don't like Kate Middleton-like bad girls at all. Wearing revealing clothes, partying with other guys, dating more than one guy at a time, wooing a guy, etc. for example, are considered slutty to American guys. Most American guys want perfectly good girls because they have masculinity, trust, and control issues. And bad girls are more likely to become victims of domestic violence, rapes and other forms of violence here in the USA than good girls. Being a bad girl is dangerous in the USA than it is in England, especially if you live in Atlanta, GA, my hometown with a small town mentality and a Bible Belt city, in which stuff around bad girls goes very fast. People spread rumors, call them nasty names, and physically abuse them as well. Guys there typically want perfectly good girls because they are very traditional and old-fashioned.

nonmember avatar Kathrine Rappap

You guys hear of ?

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