Good Riddance to Husbands Who Dump Wives in Hard Times

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Red Sox pitcher John Lackey filed for divorce on August 30, just nine months after his young wife had a double mastectomy for breast cancer. And while most in the media are calling him a sleaze bag jerk (and he kind of is), I say good riddance. Because who needs a guy who would leave a sick wife like that?

Look, we don't know the true story. We have no idea why Lackey filed for divorce. Or, for that matter, why any man would file for divorce in the midst of his wife's battle with a terrifying disease. But it seems to me, if you love someone at all, you would want them to experience the least amount of stress as possible until their treatment is over.

But if you can't wait, then by all means, please move on. No one needs a husband who isn't going to be a good one.

When a person is married, they take vows to love each other in sickness and in health. These aren't always easy vows to keep. But they aren't supposed to be. If they were easy, there would be no divorce.

Now, I have no idea what happened in the Lackey marriage and I certainly can't pretend to. But I do know enough about love to know that just because you're no longer IN it, it doesn't mean you can't support the person. At the very least, isn't there enough friendship there to want to help her through a hard time rather than make things harder?

The fact is, any guy who would leave a sick woman like this (or a woman who would leave a sick man) is likely not a person you want around anyway. What happened to empathy or respect? You don't have to love someone to want the best for them, right?

Personally, I wouldn't treat an enemy this way, so if I treat my spouse like this, what does it say about me? I am not one of those people who thinks all cheaters are dirt or all people who do X thing are Y kind of person. But in this case, there is little to be said for a person who does this.

If a woman is sick or injured or her mom just died and he leaves her? Well then good riddance to bad rubbish. That isn't the kind of man you want around.

Do you think there is any excuse to dump a sick man or woman?

 

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lehof... lehoffman

Makes me think of Lance Armstrong when he broke up with Sheryl Crow right before she announced she had breast cancer. Not to generalize, but it seems like a lot of athletes are jerks. I suppose it may have to do with all the money they make and they huge egos that they have. 

laura... laurastanley

John Lackey's "wife" has been living with another man for close to a year. She's going to make millions from their divorce. Now who do you feel bad for?

mommix4 mommix4

No I don't. In 14yrs we've been through 2 hernia surgeries, 4 kids, loosing twins, spinal surgery, a hysterectomy, perforated ulcers,a breast cancer scare, and minor illnesses. Neither one of us have ever felt like calling it quits.

BeLLa... BeLLasNewMoMmy

What if he wanted to divorce her before but then the cancer diagnosis was made! At least he stayed until she was ok. . .

scary... scaryfairy81

Probably better than staying with her and cheating and getting another woman pregnant, a la John and Elizabeth Edwards. That was the height of disgusting...and I'm a lifelong registered Democrat so not just hating him for his political affiliation. I'd rather a man leave me when I'm sick than screw around behind my back and pretend to be the faithful devoted loving husband.

nonmember avatar Bunny

If people don't know what's going on they shouldn't jugde. I've seen a few bad relationships where i wouldn't blame the person if they chose to leave, sick or not.

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Honestly u don't know y he left divorce is a process for you know they was going through the process b4 they found out she had cancer does that mean he should stay now. No it doesn't get facts b4 u kill someones reputation

Crims... CrimsonRain

It's more complicated than this.  We don't know what was going on behind closed doors.  We don't know what sort of effect this experience had on the people involved.  Certain relationships just don't make it through trauma, and that's not necessarily either person's fault.  Look at cases of children dying and parents subsequently splitting up; you'll find that it's fairly common.  I make a habit of not commenting on the "righteousness" of divorces of people I don't know from a hole in the ground.  You just don't know what's really going on, nor is it right to blame only one person.

Lisa Nolan

I dont know what happened in this marriage but reminds of the John Edwards nightmare. But my husband, also my college sweetheart, never attended 1 chemo with me. I had 8 months of treatment and was sick for nearly a full year. Nor did he know my radialogists name,6 weeks,daily. I drove myself to and from EVERY appointment. Once I was better I left his sorry ass.

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