Men Don't Really Fall in Love Within Seconds, Do They?


manYou must hate it when guys come up to you in bars and are all, "I love you! You're the one!" It must happen to you and your friends all the time because it's certainly not happening to anyone I've met, and if this new study that says 1 in 4 men know within seconds whether you're "the one" is supposed to hold any water, then there has gotta be millions of you out there who make men fall in love at first sight.

What's your secret? Why are men flocking to you and not me? It's because I use Suave products, isn't it.

I always thought my 99-cent shampoo would bite me in the ass one day. But seriously? Could it be that my friends and I are just fugly unapproachable a-holes who repel men with a ridiculous force that defies nature ... or is this study the thing that's ridiculous.

For whatever's left of my self-worth, let's go with the latter. Because if nearly one quarter of the male population is out there falling head over heels for women, then I'd like someone to come drown me in my Suave Rain Mist body wash since clearly I am not worth the air I breathe. It just simply can't be.

These men that were interviewed, these Casanovas, are they really falling in love within seconds? Or lust. I think when they see a tight shirt and a pretty face, their eyes pop out of their sockets, their pants get a little tighter, and they believe they've found the perfect specimen. In reality, they've found themselves with a five-beer buzz and a woman who's giving them the time of day. It's not love. She's not "the one."

Also, do guys really think about "the one"? I thought that was a term made up by bridal magazines. It's not real, is it? A survey of one man in this room says he has never looked at a woman in the bar and been thrilled at the idea that she could be the last person he'll sleep with for the rest of his life. I'm going to go with my thorough research over theirs.

Do you think 1 in 4 guys falls in love within seconds?

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Jenn Johnson

I think it's possible, sure. But, that's not to say they 'stay in love'.

LikeA... LikeAVirgin

Totally agree with Jenn.

Melis... Melissa042807

Who knows. Maybe. My husband knew on our first date that he wanted to marry me and it worked out pretty well. ;-)

Torto... Tortoise77

Same here. My husband insisted on dating me and I asked why and he said because I see the potentiality of something great between us. That night on my way home I said to myself " I'm gonna marry this man one day" Well, we are now married and have baby boy and are totally in love. ;-)

Tarry... Tarrytown

My husband claimed that he knew the first minute he met me that he was going to marry me. We ended up arguing on our first date. We got married 4 years later, that was 26 years ago. :)

Jessica Moseley

My husband said the night after our first date (if you can call it that, I was fifteen and snuck out of my house at 1am to meet him and hang out in the park! a blind 'date' at that!) that he was gonna be the father of my children and marry me one day. six months later i got a promise/engagement ring. now we are in our 20's and happily married.

BecKa Bullard

Totally possible. Before me and my husband met, he lived alone for 2 years. No hookups.. and hes not the bar going type. None of that is really his scene. We had met before through mutual friends, briefly...years ago. I came into town, and called him up, looking to hang out with friends. As soon as we saw eachother, we knew. It was mutual. It was unexplainable. A feeling neither of us had before. Instant. I moved in the next day...literally. Weve been together for 7 years and have 3 children and couldnt be happier. 

When its meant to be....its meant to be. 


nonmember avatar sparklemama

I do think it is possible! My husband introduced himself to me in a cafe in college, after we locked eyes in passing. I was dating someone else at the time, but he never gave up. He told his friends that "I was his future wife". 5 YEARS LATER we met up over coffee, and finally began dating. We moved in together at 6 months, were engaged at 9 months...and married 1.5 years later. We now have a 2 year old son and are still very much in love!

Casey Heinrich

Yes, that happened in the first conversation with my wife and I told her that she was supposed to be my wife.

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