Great news everybody! One of the most hated men is America is engaged! Again! Jesse James (you remember him: The guy with the big head and tattoos who cheated on wife Sandra Bullock) is going to marry girlfriend Kat Von D after all. The pair dated, then got engaged, then separated, and are now re-engaged. For realsies this time, they swear.
There's tons of speculation about whether or not the two actually broke up in the first place -- it's rumored that they did it to get ratings for her show LA Ink on TLC -- and there are others that say the second engagement is too nicley paired with her show's cancellation yesterday. Ugh, whatever. They're back together, fine. But why rush into another engagement? Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it also fucks with your brain. If they didn't have time to get over the loss and really take a step back and think about their relationship, then they're doomed.
As Neil Sedaka put it, "breaking up is hard to do." And he's right! It's so hard. It's harder than staying together sometimes. Assuming that Kat and Jesse actually broke up in the first place, then a rush to get back together is a mistake. It's a road most of us have been down before, unfortunately, and we've learned our lessons the hard way. They haven't been unengaged for more than a month, and now they're already back together? Not good.
[You guys I'm totally talking like I'm so some sort of expert on the subject, but let it be known I'm just trying to figure out what love and commitment mean on a day to day basis. Don't let my strong opinions trick you into thinking I know what I'm talking about. It's love. No one knows what they're talking about. We're all just talking from our hearts, and sometimes our asses. But you knew that already. Good talk. Kthxbai.]
If there was reason enough to break up in the first place, if there was reason enough to remove the ring and call the whole thing off, then there's reason for pause. Maybe they should get back together, but to make sure that's the right decision, I think they needed more time. Like, four months or so. The first two months after a serious break-up you're a zombie who lives off Vitamin Water and movie theater popcorn (so I've heard ... ) but by week nine, things start to go back to normal. You're able to review the situation like a rational person, and not one whose heart has been ripped out of her chest and punted from New York to Russia.
Time is necessary to figure out what you want. And by time I don't mean three weeks. They're hurrying to get back together because they have heartache, not because they realized that they made a mistake. I don't think their marriage will last, but I wish them well. Just kidding! I don't wish Jesse well. You mess with my Sandra, you're dead to me. Ha.
How long do you think a couple should stay separated before ultimately deciding they made the wrong choice and should get back together?
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