tony romo candice crawfordEver since he seemed to string ex-gf Jessica Simpson along, I've thought Dallas Cowboys player Tony Romo was kind of a schmoe. But now that's all water under the bridge, and he's happily married to Candice Crawford. I guess there are a handful of people out there (in Texas, most likely) who are really intrigued by his relationship with his now-wife, because he recently spilled to local Dallas news about the proposal. He admitted he was "a little nervous," but then, "You see her start to cry, and you know you made a great decision."

Hmmm. Let me get this straight: He thinks the fact that she bawled when he said, "Will you marry me?" means he was wise to propose? Huh?? I don't see how the two add up.

Don't get me wrong -- I have nothing against women who end up crying when their guy (or gal) gets down on one knee.

I am well aware that I myself could very well end up crying when that day comes for me. Crying is a totally natural response, and I even have very chill friends who found themselves sobbing HYSTERICALLY when their guy popped the Q. That said, I really don't believe crying or freaking out at all is the ONLY legit response a woman can have. Or, more importantly, the only way a guy can know he made the right decision.

I mean, say you're totally expecting to be asked, and you've played the scenario out in your head several (okay, HUNDREDS of) times, and then when he asks, your response is delirious happiness sans tears? Or you're totally surprised, so you find yourself shrieking, "OMG! OMG! OMG!" or "NO! NO! NO!" because you just can't believe it's happening at that moment. (A friend of mine did that, and of course felt awful, because her now-hubby thought she was refusing!) Or you're struck speechless. Maybe it's been a long time coming, so you respond with a super-happy, confident "YES!"

There are a bazillion ways women respond to marriage proposals, and one isn't better or more telling or more genuine than the other. I'd think it would be a serious mistake to think so, because that could lead to all kinds of pressure and ridiculous expectations, leaving both parties disappointed. The best reaction -- the one that truly lets your partner know that he (or she) made a "great decision" -- is always going to be a woman's natural one, whether there are tears or not.

If you're engaged or married, how did you react to your marriage proposal? Do you think there is a "best" way to react?

 

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