Ryan Phillippe & Demi Lovato Hook Up Shows Why Big Age Gap Is Bad News

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ryan phillippeGross. Gross, gross, gross. Rumors are swirling that Ryan Phillippe and Demi Lovato have been secretly dating now for a few months. Ryan, 36, is twice Demi's age -- quick math -- aaaaand she's 18. Perez Hilton and E! News say that things have gotten pretty hot and heavy between the two recently, but that the relationship kind of started cooling down after Ryan's ex-girlfriend gave birth to his baby girl, Kai. Nothing like a little baby-mama drama to hopefully scare an 18-year-old girl into being a single teen again.

Pop quiz! If Ryan is indeed hooking up with Demi Lovato, then he's:

A) A total sleaze and should not date anyone whom his kids watch on the Disney channel.

or

B) Eh, just doing his thing. He's free to date whom he wants. It's not like it's illegal (even though it almost is).

I don't even think this is a tough one. To me, he's a sleaze ball. I don't care if there aren't any laws saying he can't date her, but goodness gracious, there should be. An age difference is fine at some ages, but it's not like she's 30 and he's 48.

Demi is too young to date anyone over, and I'm being super generous here ... 28. (I would say 22 but for some reason I'm feeling magnanimous today.) I'm in a relationship with an age difference -- he's six years older -- but I'm an adult closing in on 30. So it's not that I'm against age gaps, I'm just against this particular case, because there is no scenario in my mind in which an 18-year-old teenager could have a meaningful, well-rounded, emotionally fulfilling relationship with a 36-year-old divorced man with two kids from his first marriage and a newborn from his previous girlfriend.

And I don't want to even think about the sexuality differences between an 18-year-old girl and a 36-year-old man. Maybe I'm naive, but I would think (hope?) that Demi's still a little green, like she should be. Discovering sex and all its wonderful colors (ohgodican'tbelieveijustsaidthatbutyouknowwhatimean) should be a slow and trusting process, and I would argue best discovered with someone around your age, who can at least relate to what you're feeling.

Would you let your 18-year-old daughter get "hot and heavy" with a 36-year-old man? Do you think it's cool for Demi and Ryan to hook up?


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