Ryan Phillippe & Demi Lovato Hook Up Shows Why Big Age Gap Is Bad News

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ryan phillippeGross. Gross, gross, gross. Rumors are swirling that Ryan Phillippe and Demi Lovato have been secretly dating now for a few months. Ryan, 36, is twice Demi's age -- quick math -- aaaaand she's 18. Perez Hilton and E! News say that things have gotten pretty hot and heavy between the two recently, but that the relationship kind of started cooling down after Ryan's ex-girlfriend gave birth to his baby girl, Kai. Nothing like a little baby-mama drama to hopefully scare an 18-year-old girl into being a single teen again.

Pop quiz! If Ryan is indeed hooking up with Demi Lovato, then he's:

A) A total sleaze and should not date anyone whom his kids watch on the Disney channel.

or

B) Eh, just doing his thing. He's free to date whom he wants. It's not like it's illegal (even though it almost is).

I don't even think this is a tough one. To me, he's a sleaze ball. I don't care if there aren't any laws saying he can't date her, but goodness gracious, there should be. An age difference is fine at some ages, but it's not like she's 30 and he's 48.

Demi is too young to date anyone over, and I'm being super generous here ... 28. (I would say 22 but for some reason I'm feeling magnanimous today.) I'm in a relationship with an age difference -- he's six years older -- but I'm an adult closing in on 30. So it's not that I'm against age gaps, I'm just against this particular case, because there is no scenario in my mind in which an 18-year-old teenager could have a meaningful, well-rounded, emotionally fulfilling relationship with a 36-year-old divorced man with two kids from his first marriage and a newborn from his previous girlfriend.

And I don't want to even think about the sexuality differences between an 18-year-old girl and a 36-year-old man. Maybe I'm naive, but I would think (hope?) that Demi's still a little green, like she should be. Discovering sex and all its wonderful colors (ohgodican'tbelieveijustsaidthatbutyouknowwhatimean) should be a slow and trusting process, and I would argue best discovered with someone around your age, who can at least relate to what you're feeling.

Would you let your 18-year-old daughter get "hot and heavy" with a 36-year-old man? Do you think it's cool for Demi and Ryan to hook up?


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JHanc968 JHanc968

Disgusting!

Sara Haxton

My parents had a 19 yr age gap.  In fact my oldest half sister is only 6 yrs younger than my mom.  They had a strong loving marriage that last 25yrs 7months when my dad died of cancer.  I do not have a problem with it at all.  Once your 18 you can date who you want, marry who you want, because it is your life.

PonyC... PonyChaser

Demi Moore is what, 15? years older than husband Ashton Kutcher. Do you have a problem with that? They started dating when he was 25 and she was 40.


Men mature at different rates than women. I know plenty of 18-year old guys who are into nothing more than where their next beer comes from and getting laid... who cairs what her name is, as long as she puts out, by the way.


I know nothing about Demi Lovato. But, perhaps she's one of those young ladies who is very mature for her age, and won't suffer the fools who are her age. I'd say, she's of legal age, this is one that you'd have to judge individually.


I know nothing about Ryan Phillippe, either. Maybe he treats her well and doesn't pressure her like other guys her age might. Maybe he's interested in her and not the fact that she's some hottie on TV.


So no, I don't consider him a sleaze ball. Now, if he's bed hopping, and hers is just one of many, I'm likely to change my opinion.

PonyC... PonyChaser

*cairs? what the heck? I meant "Cares". sorry.

Elizabeth Gronewald

I am currently in a relationship with someone who is nineteen years my senior. It seems to work for us.

Tonya Pralat

Biggest problem here....he has a newborn with someone else!!!!! He needs to get his priorities STRAIGHT!

Tonya Pralat

Also for the record, I am no longer watching his movies thinking he's all hot any more. Im going to go watch Little red Riding Hood now.....she's so much hotter than him!!!

Albond86 Albond86

I don't see an issue with it really! She is an "adult" and if she wants to make the mistake it's hers to make not ours! I married my husband who is 11 years older then me when I was 22. We are very happily married and he makes me much happier then any man my age ever could! I don't think of my husband as a perve for dating and marrying me! I say let them make their own choices!  If she had been under age well yeah I'd be like "Um? HELLO?" but she's not! Get over it move on!

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

Omgod! chill people...this wont last...and you HAVE to be kidding yourself to believe that Mr Ryan is the first one to venture to Lavadoland. And as far as the age difference is....it totally depends on the people.

nonmember avatar maria

I'm 18 and I'm dating a 27 year old guy who has a 5 year old son and another baby on the way with his ex. some people consider that wrong, but guys my age are far too immature to be in a proper relationship with.

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