Google+ Thinks You're Embarrassed By Your Divorce


google Have you gotten the all-mighty Google+ invitation yet? The latest in social networking, Google+ includes circles and "plus ones" ... and boy is it so fun. I think? It's confusing. I don't really get it. I signed up this weekend and still have very little clue how to use it, but hopefully someone will be able to teach this old dog a new trick or two. Anyway, I thought I'd start my foray into Google+ by setting up my profile. Seemed like an easy enough thing to do -- answer some basic questions about myself, upload a photo, and viola!

But there was one part of this "easy" profile set up that got me a little confused. Under the "Relationship" part, there's a drop down from which you choose how you define your status.

But Google forgot something. Where's the "divorced" option?

You can chose from:

  • I don't want to say
  • Single
  • In a relationship
  • Engaged
  • Married
  • It's complicated
  • In an open relationship
  • Widowed
  • In a domestic partnership
  • In a civil union

I'm sure you noticed that "Divorced" and "Separated" are missing. I don't know about you, but that's pretty surprising. With the divorce rate what it is, don't you agree that there's probably a lot of people out there who'd like to select that they're divorced?

It's an oversight. It's not that we're entirely defined by our relationships, but divorced is a much a part of a person's past as it is their future. Is Google trying to say that people shouldn't admit if they are (GASP) divorced? Come on. Everyone is either divorced or about to be. OK OK that's not true, but you know what I mean. It's not like it's 1940 and the "d" word is something unthinkable or something to be ashamed of. It's 2011.

I never thought I'd have to say this, but get with the program, Google. If you're going to allow us to chose "In an open relationship" you gotta let us say we're divorced.

What do you think about Google+ leaving "divorced" and separated off the list?

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Rose Savoie

I think you're reading into this a little too much.  I am happily married, but if I were divorced I wouldn't use that as a way to define myself.  no longer married = single.   I can see why the widowed option is there, because if my husband were to die I would want to define myself by that title.


Or gasp, could it be just be one of those technical errors that happens when a new site opens up.


jpark... jparker289

I am guessing divorced and single would be one in the same! Logically.

sweet... sweetcherry_59

Why would you need to define yourself as "divorced" when "single" should cover it all the same? I got my google+ invite from a CM but she is my only friend. I don't get it yet but I didn't get facebook for about a month. I'm sure eventually I will get the hang of it.

Ataem... Ataemommy

Divorced is the same as single. Remove the bug from your ass. People who demand classifying themselves as "divorced" when "single" suffices just fine are people who are determined to wear their divorce like a battle wound and get sympathy and play martyr. Ugh. No thanks. Talk about being unattractive to everyone around you, Google + or no.

Allison Priest Leonard

On Facebook, I hardly ever see anyone use the "divorced" label. Most people like to use "single." I don't know why...maybe the word "divorced" leaves a bad taste in their mouths and they prefer to be known as "single." But really, I think I only know one person who uses the "divorced" option out of all my friends. And I have quite a few that are divorced.

MrsNe... MrsNewman

I think if your divorced than your single, right? 

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

If you're divorced then you're single. Why would you want your relationship status to say that you failed at marriage? Is it a martyr thing (nobody feels sorry for you) or are you just trying to scare off potential suitors?

ashjo85 ashjo85

^agreed. If it's really that important that you spread around that sort of information, put it in your description, right under your name. I would think "single" or "it's complicated" would handle both divorce and separation.

nonmember avatar Andrea

Um, if you're divorced than you are single. End of story.

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