Longest Married Couple in the World Shares Their Secrets

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Whenever I hear a couple has made it past the 20-year mark of their marriage, I start to revere them. Marriage is hard. And making it to 20 years, let alone 50, is incredibly difficult. Well one couple puts them all to shame.

Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher have been married 87 years. They lived together through the Great Depression, World War II, the Korean War, Cuban Missile Crisis, and Vietnam. They saw the moon landing and their story is sweet and enduring and lovely. But it isn't romantic.

When asked why they decided to marry, it was because Zelmyra “did not give [Herbert] any trouble” and Herbert “was not much to look at ... [but] he was quiet and kind.”

Not what you would expect, right? And yet it is.

Marriage is wonderful, rich, and so very important, but at times, it isn't romantic. It's a partnership and a team, and it can be the best thing in the world, but if you want constant dazzling, then maybe you're looking at the wrong things.

The Fishers were married on May 13, 1924 and are now 105 and 103. Their secrets are:

Everyone who plants a seed and harvests the crop celebrates together. We are individuals, but accomplish more together. Remember marriage is not a contest -- never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.

I couldn't agree more. I only hope that my husband and I live to celebrate our 86th anniversary. And now it's only 79 years away!

What is your secret to lasting marriage?

 

Image via Cameron Nordholm/Flickr

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rainm... rainmommy

i would love to know their secrets to every day struggles me and dh have only been married 2 years and there are days where i feel i could walk out and not look back...but then he usually does something sweet that reminds me why i fell for him and married him

TC00 TC00

My grandparents have been married 63yrs.  They've raised 5 daughters and helped to raise 30 grandchildren.

t-grrl t-grrl

We've only been married for 4 years, but after each having been divorced before, I think we bring a special appreciation for one another to the marriage.  My husband and I respect each other very deeply and believe that our marriage is a partnership.  Love and romance are very important but I believe respect is the name of the game.  That and a super hot husband!

Laurel Burnette

That is the sweetest! I like their reasons for getting married-- we should all marry someone who doesn't give us much trouble and is quiet and kind. :)

kalisah kalisah

Marriage *IS* hard. It's a lot of work. We celebrated 18 years last month. My inlaws were married just shy of 70 years when she passed last fall. They got married when she was 17 and he was 21 & heading to war. I think - like Herbert and Zelmyra - you have to remove the romantic ideas and come at it with more pragmatism. It's not about "true love" and your soul mate, it's about finding the person you're willing to work with and be dedicated to. The ONLY way to not have a marriage fail is to simply take divorce off the table. Not only were Mom & Dad together longer than some people's lifetimes, but none of their children or grandchildren have divorced either. I wasn't about to be the first!!

Saman... Samantha_1629

I think when most people get married they forget that they married an imperfect person. They set expectations on their spouse and when those expectations are not met, then they are ready to find someone new or get out of the marriage. Marriage is not some fairy tale love story. It takes work, communication and forgiveness. It's a guarantee that at some point in the marriage you will disappoint your spouse and they will disappoint you. But you have to learn how to work through things together. Giving up should never be an option. You have to be willing to love that person even when you feel they don't deserve it, that's unconditional love. Unconditional love is a choice, not a feeling. And every successful marriage requires it.

Victoria Goins

you cannot rely on love alone to carry you through the years: you must commit to being married to the other person even through very difficult times. you must maintain unconditional love all the time--the love that requires nothing back and doesn't change with your mood or the seasons. 

Bodda... Boddah266

They just rock. 'Nuff said! :D

No9Dream No9Dream

my grandparents have been married for 71 years now, will be 72 this October. He is 99 and she is 96. God bless them both.

Beths... Bethsunshine

Wow, that's awesome!! My grandparents were married 62 years. My in-laws celebrated 50 years last year, and my parents have been married 41 years. My husband and I have been married 15 and a half years. We have had great examples of marriage to follow. Something that I learned from my parents and my grandparents is to never speak ill of your spouse to other people; keep your disagreements and problems between the two of you. Don't broadcast your issues to your best friend, your mom, and all over the internet. No wonder so many marriages are in the toilet, when a wife will trash-talk her husband to anyone who will listen, instead of talking to him about their problems. Marriage is work, and a commitment and you can't just cut and run the first time your spouse ticks you off or the first time things get rough.

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