Do You and Your Husband Have a Song?

Heather Chaet

Do you and your hubby have a song? Maybe whatever was playing at the bar where you met or from the soundtrack of the first movie you saw together. The song that, when it comes on, makes you look at each other with that look. Whether you were used to mix tapes back in the day or now you create playlists for your beau, it seems like couples, young or old, in relationships, whether newly minted or vintage, have a song (or two) that they call theirs.

When you think about it, the song could be the only constant in the world of dating, courtship, relationships that has spanned decades ...

Long gone are the old school ways of dating. Does anyone remember having one boy fill your dance card? Okay, I don't even remember that, but back when my husband and I started dating, we didn't have email. We didn't have texts. I didn't even have a cellphone. He'd call me on my land line. And now, we are in a new generation of sexting, Internet dating, declaring love, and breaking up on Facebook. I'm not saying it's good or bad, it's just different. This definitely ain't your grandma's dating scene.  

But, really, the one thing that hasn't changed is having a song. My husband and I have one from My Best Friend's Wedding soundtrack -- "Wishin' and Hopin'" sung by Ani DiFranco. We danced to Israel Kamakawiwo'ole's "Over the Rainbow/What a Wonderful World" medley at our wedding. When either of them comes on, yeah, it makes me think of my husband. My parents have a song, my grandparents had a song ... and the 19-year-olds I saw holding hands the other day have a song.

It is pretty amazing. I can't think of anything else dating-related that has lasted the decades -- can you? From how you are asked out (coming by your house to inquire as to weekend plans versus a text) to love letters (you used to need a pen and paper, now you need an email account), dating has totally changed ... except for having a song. 

Do you and your husband have a song?


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