Does Lingerie Die When You Become a Mom?


lingerieWe are headed to my brother's wedding soon, and I was thinking about what to get my future sister-in-law for her bridal luncheon-that-is-kind-of-a-shower. She wants us to make donations to a charity, which I will, but I also wanted to get her something too. I first thought of lingerie ... which made me wrack my brain as to the last time I wore lingerie. It was, well, in another decade. Long ago in another decade. Seriously. Once you become a mom, lingerie dies.

It comes down to two things. First up, comfort. Look around the park. How many moms do you think are sporting some racy corset-like teddies underneath those mommy capris and t-shirts? It would be too hot and way too hard to bend in to grab Junior from the end of the slide. Just not comfy at all. Is any mom donning a red push-up and matching lace thong while waiting for Kiddo at ballet class? I think not. That lace is itchy, right? And, we all know, when they make lingerie, they didn't make it to be conducive for preschool pick-up ... or really anything other than being sexy on a bed.

Plus, if you are wearing lingerie and Kiddo barges in as you are going to the bathroom, you have just opened up a huge can of worms about your "fancy panties," which you know she will be telling her whole class and the teachers about tomorrow.

Second, say you don't wear the lingerie all day and have ready to go when the moment strikes. You have it in your drawer, but it just isn't practical to think you're going to pull on some garter belts and matching peek-a-boo nightie before the Love Time Boogaloo.

Picture it: you've had a long day with the kids, it's bath time. Your hubby comes home early -- whoo hoo! You shove some pjs and the wet children at him so you can finish folding the laundry and clear off the dinner dishes. After the kiddos are in bed, he looks at you with that look. Even if, on the rare chance, you are in the mood, you aren't in the mood to go fishing around your drawer for fishnets. Nope. The hanky-panky will commence but sans lingerie.

You see, once you become a mom, lingerie dies. Maybe the sex doesn't change, but what sex is wearing certainly does.

Do you still wear lingerie?


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Lynette Lynette

I have some, it doesn't come out often but once in a great while it does.  And after, it's back into one of DH's oversized t-shirts for sleep, lol.  

sweet... sweet.lil.mama

i have some but it doesn't stay on long lol i think i spend more time putting it on honestly haha


I dont think so, Im a momie and who says you cant still have fun in bed??

Nraw2011 Nraw2011

Yes I still wear it. I have a collection of vintage nighties which my husband loves and I wear them often.  We need to put more time in to keeping ourselves up (men and woman).  Some of my husbands co-workers are miserable because their wives have completely let themselves go.  Id be unhappy with myself if I wore old bleach stained tees to bed every night. 

kfroz... kfroz0415

I still have some and wear it sometimes. I'm nursing a 5 month old though and really don't want to get leaky boob stains on my good sex wear. lol 

I like to think it will make more of an appearance once we DON'T have a baby in our room and a set of leaking boobs. haha


Mousuke Mousuke

Lingerie didn't die for me! I love lace, mesh, and satin. I always wear pretty bras. Lingerie doesn't have to be uncomfortable (and if it is, you are not buying the right lingerie). I have soft lace sets that I enjoy wearing under my regular clothes. I hate the feel of tights, so when most people think I'm wearing tights, I'm actulaly wearing thigh highs.

I'm with Nraw2011 on this one. I refused to let myself go. I wear skirts and dresses, I keep up my hair, and, on the rare occasion that we're not sleeping naked, I wear cute pajamas to bed.

nonmember avatar Monzie

I still have my pre-mommy lingerie but haven't worn any of it for years. Frankly, I don't have the time to get all dolled up just so we can tear off everything again in the throes of passion. I *do* have a sexy bra that I wear, though, because I'm a bf'ing momma and my heavy milk boobs need the extra support if we're going to be bouncing around.

nonmember avatar FancyLingerie

It definitely doesn't die when you become a mom, you just have to be more creative with your time.

shine... shineyllamatues

I wear lingerie more now. Sexy teddies hide the mommy tummy that we all love... not. Hubby loves them too bc I felt sexier in them.

Sweet... SweetSanti

I think I actually wear it more now too. Since I am able to feel more comfortable about it in front of my hubby. btw I usually go to for my stuff just make sure to check the sizing chart first.

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