20 Surprisingly Sexy Qualities in a Man


Sexy menDo you need a man with rock hard abs and a chiseled jaw to make you weak in the knees? Or do other less obvious characteristics do it for you? Sexy is not always the way he looks or dresses. It can also be found in the simple, everyday things he does.

And what's sexy is definitely in the eye of the beholder. I'm surprised by what has been turning me on about my husband lately. Sure, we’ve been together for eight years. And what was sexy to me when we first met isn't what is sexy to me now. He’s grown as a husband, a father, and a stepfather. As I hope I have as a wife, mother, and stepmother.

So, here's a list of 20 surprisingly sexy traits in a man. And I say surprisingly because so few of these things have anything to do with sex.

1. Admitting he's wrong.

2. Being able to converse intelligently with anyone, anywhere, and at anytime.

3. Changing the outdoor light bulb without anybody asking.

4. Putting family finances before personal desires.

5. Upping his fitness regimen so he can be around longer.

6. Buying a couple of packs of new underwear. And throwing out the old ones.

7. Scaring me in bed. Just enough to excite me.

8. Taking off his work shirt after a long day and being a little odoriferous.

9. Cooking a meal for me based on a recipe I picked out of Bon Appetit.

10. Being knowledgeable about planting a garden. Who knew?

11. Confident with the use of his hands.

12. Having a welcoming sense of humor and getting mine.

13. Happily being the Date Night designated driver.

14. Knowing his way around the kitchen. And wanting to be in it.

15. Being a really patient father and stepfather.

16. Having knowledge about something that I don't, like thoroughbred horse racing.

17. Cleaning out the refrigerator.

18. Making a really perfect dirty martini.

19. Getting better life insurance for me. Hmmmm.

20. Using his sex voice in public.

Sure, some of these are specific to me and my man. Not everybody likes a little fear in the bedroom or horse racing. But tell me, what's surprisingly sexy to you about yours?

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nonmember avatar Jen DC

My boyfriend is really playful! That is, if I want to wrestle (which I often do, because what fun is having a boyfriend 8" and 100#s bigger than you if you can't jump on his back from time to time), then he'll give me a tussle, no questions asked. Although his definition of a tussle is to sit or stand still while I expend all my energy trying to knock him down. And then he picks me up, spins me around and asks if I've "had enough". Hilarious EVERY SINGLE TIME. And he'll do it in front of his 4 younger brothers. I love that guy.


My Husband has countless amazing qualities, inside as well as out, that make Him THE sexiest Man in existence. There is NO ONE sexier than my Husband, and that applies to every aspect. Sorry to burst anyone's bubble. ;P

Knitt... KnittinMama

Mowing the yard. Its the combination of watching him work, being all dirty, making sure the kids have a safe place to play and the outdoor sex scenes that endlessly run through my head. Ah love it! Oh and doing dishes together. Bumping into each other and the "accidental" groping and touching under hot soapy water. Im so easy :)

Putri... PutridyCorpse

I love watching my husband fix things with his hands >=)

nonmember avatar apajax6

Well I'm a female and I'd wager to say I know more about thoroughbred racing than most of the men you're going to come across. Sadly, I'm not sexy for it.

nonmember avatar DNA

I think the men in that picture aren't too concerned with what the ladies think.

Jenniy Jenniy

Good with my kids.... I'll melt. lol

Willing to learn how to care for my youngest....... marrying material right there.

If he knows what I'm talking about when I talk of the little known British shows that I watch...... AWESOME!!!!!!

A gamer and into the same games I play..... swoon.


kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

When my husband helps with a chore like laundry. Or cooking :)

lilel... lilelvengirl

I snagged a military man.. he hates having to wear the same thing day after day, but I love seeing him in uniform.. and out of it ;-)

Hempr... Hemprincess

When my husband has my back. For the first few years we were together his mother would try to incite arguments between us because she thought that her opinion on how to raise our son or manage our finances should over rule mine. It almost ruined our marriage, but now when she tries to start something he'll tell her to butt out. Not being a complete mama's boy is a huge turn on for me.

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