Lonely Granny Shoots Younger Man Over Rejected Kiss


Helen Staudinger

Helen Staudinger

Stolen stripper poles, pink guns, and now this: retaliation for a refused kiss with gunfire from 92-year-old Helen Staudinger's semi-automatic handgun. Coincidentally, all three incidents occurred in my home state of Florida. Lucky me.

Staudinger seems to have been under the impression that she and 53-year-old neighbor Dwight Bettner had a romantic liaison going on. Bettner says that he has been neighborly with Staudinger, helping her with her trash and getting her a part for her stove, but that there was no relationship. He even told Staudinger that he had a girlfriend.

When Bettner wouldn't kiss her goodbye, and after he told her to leave his house, an incensed Staudinger got the semi-automatic handgun from her house and came out shooting. Luckily for Bettner, she missed. All four times.

Staudinger's mug shot makes me feel sad for her. Ninety-two years old and living alone. And rejection can really be painful both emotionally and physically, that punched in the gut feeling. But reacting to it by trying to shoot your rejector? Not a good choice. A few other poor choices to make when handling rejection:

  • Keying his car. Carrie Underwood made this act of retaliation for scorned love the theme of her song "Before He Cheats." It looks like it feels good in the video but vandalism is illegal, punishable by a hefty fine or jail time.
  • Blogging about your rejection using your real name or anything close to it. Sure, writing about an unhappy event can be therapeutic. I know it works for me. But turn it into a work of fiction. The Internet has no shelf life. Once something is published online, it's likely to remain there forever.
  • Drunk dialing, texting, or posting on Facebook is a surefire way to make a complete fool out of yourself. Hold on to any seemingly great thoughts you want to post while you are drunk until the next day. If they still seem appropriate, then go for it. 

Rejection sucks. Having someone say they don't want to be with you anymore, or even just deflecting your romantic advances, hurts. But there are healthier ways to handle rejection than grabbing your semi and shooting.

The best things to do? Face reality and move on. Take the time to do the things that you enjoy with the people you are close to. Let your friends help you keep your emotions in check. And don't watch any romantic comedies. Time heals all wounds, but gunshot scars are forever.

What are some of the ways you've handled rejection?

Image via Marion County Sheriff

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butte... butterflymkm

92 is flippin OLD maybe she wasn't in her right mind or has alzimers or something. Does she have a history of violence?

sunny... sunnybunny5us

You know what they say: "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."

bsawy... bsawyer84

She most likely has dementia and should be in a home.

This sounds bad, but I haven't really been rejected all that much. The couple times I've been dumped I had already moved on by the time the dumping happened so I partied. Call me cold but I know when to cut my losses and move on.



mom.m... mom.mom.MOM

when she was young stuff like fixing the stove and taking out trash was courting I think it's misunderstanding she missed all four times she was just a little scorned lol

Elfin... Elfinlight

she looks like a few of my residents! lol i am glad she missed, but damn it, he could have at least kissed her on the cheek! I am perty sure she had a form of dimintia, but still this is perty funny.

gypsy... gypsydancer7

She looks like a wonderful but sad little lady. This story makes me sad, she obviously is up there in age and is suffering some of the effects of old age. Makes me sadder that people are making a story of her tragedy and poking fun at her.

Kelly Carpenter

I agree with BSawyer84. My grandfather had  dementia. Sometimes people with can have hallucinations. And cause them not to recognize between right and wrong. I believe she should be not in a home but in a mental ward where she can have consent supervision.

nonmember avatar Seven

Been a reject.....damn, I still might be a reject. Anyways & life goes on for me, got no time to get a killing on. I love my life, no jail time over being rejected...... But I really feel her pain 

Lindsey Speir

You guys are so messed up. Maybe in you states a mental ward is different but in my state thats just like being in jail. Just having dementia is not cause for that. I am a CNA and work with people everyday that have this and they are just on  a normal hall like everyone else. If she has no family and no one to even suggest a NURSING home than maybe that is y she is living on here own with a gun who knows the whole story anyway.

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