More Women Are Becoming Unwilling Porn Stars


Revenge pornYou’re all wrapped up in love and smitten with his adorability when you finally cave to his ten thousand and fiftieth request to make a little “home movie.” Not the kind that you show when the McLellans come over for dinner and drinks (oh dear God no!). No, no, this one is for his eyes only, he swears. You’re hot. The video will be hot. And since you love him, you go on ahead and do your best Jenna Jameson when the camera rolls.

Then you break up and become an overnight celebrity because this muthasucka has posted your naked, up-in-the-air bare bottom on every website that would have it — and there sure are plenty. Jeff from accounting at your job, your next door neighbor with the weird eye, even (ack!) your hormonal little brother can stumble across your ride 'em cowgirl handiwork with the click of a mouse.

Oh, it can happen, video vixen. The trend is called “Ex-Girlfriend Porn.”

And it’s just as seedy and underworldly as it sounds. Even worse: some sites allow disgruntled douchebags and ignorant former flames to post your name, address, and phone number along with the footage of you in bed.

Porn havens like, which has little to no watchdog system for what and who’s being uploaded, allows users to add clips no questions asked, which means its thousands and thousands of featured videos can come from a mixture of wannabe professional smut makers and women with the misfortune of having an evil, twisted scumbag in their past (even though gay revenge porn is also a rising trend).

But there are also sites like and that cater specifically to the market of scorned jerks and voyeuristic freaks. And those are web homes designed for the deliberate humiliation of women who find themselves on the wrong side of the homemade skin flick.

Some sites let these losers vent their little emasculated bleeding hearts along with their posted scandalous material, and the main excuse for their bad behavior usually falls under the “I'm acting like a whole ass because she cheated” category. Revelation of the day, you idiot: It takes two to make a video, and judging by the prop you brought to the performance, we can all totally see why she went astray.   

What would you do if you found out your ex had secretly turned you into a home video porn star?

Image via Roberto Verzo/Flickr

breakups, dating, dating mom, divorce, lying, sex, single moms


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Proud... ProudSingleMum

My (now ex) BFF is cheating on her husband. Her and the 'new guy' have made sex videos....she thought I was an idiot when I told her she shoudn't do that...because they probably won't stay private. Her response "He's such a nice guy, I know he'd never do something like that". Well, nice guys don't sleep with married men, they aren't involved in hit and run accidents, they don't befriend their married girlfriends husband just to lie to his face on a daily basis...must I go on?? Ah well, it's her problem now.

lazyw... lazywench

Make em sign an agreement before you "cave" and make the video!  That way you can jerk a serious knot on their ass if they do make it public, lol. 

Seriously though, you are the only one who can protect you so take charge and do so.

sassy... sassykat122

No. to the H-E-L-L N-O. I lov my S.O. and he's asked about neked pics before and I refuse.

hotic... hoticedcoffee

I think if a woman consents to having herself filmed in the act (and that would make her a WILLING pornstar, even if it's amatuer), she's got no grounds to complain if and when the footage is made public.

Miriam Kennedy

Really? I mean who is making this public? The husband ? a hacker? people doing work in their home who steal it out of their drawer? I think if you might break up and go your seperate ways then no you shouldn't, but with someone who you feel secure enough with to have as the father of your children? I think thats a different story. I wish I had some film like that of my husband and I when we first got together (too late to make it now - we don't photograph as well as we used to - way not fun to see our old fat selves on film)

sassy... sassykat122

Miriam, isn't that what the many celebs who get their videos or pictures release probably say. That the are in a loving relationship and darn if this guy or girl is too nice to do such a thing as release it. Same thing for all those non celebs who have videos and photos released. If you don't want them released them don't do it, period. because you just never know, maybe your computer does get hacked, maybe someone does break into your house, or maybe that guy/girl you love enough to have children with you don't wind up staying with as you thought. No one knows the future and if you do this stuff and it gets released-after all the press about this stuff it's your own fault for doing it in the first place.

betha... bethany169

I love my husband and trust him with my life, but there is no way in hell I would ever let him film us. EVER.  So that goes a thousand-fold for the guys I dated before him and deemed unworthy of marriage--they were definitely not videotape worthy LOL  My brother has a thing for filming the chicks he's with using family members' cameras and leaving the pictures and videos on the cameras for us to find later, it's disgusting.  I just really question any guy who wants to do it, and any girl who lets a guy do it.....

Knitt... KnittinMama

Hoticedcoffee: Im in your camp.

nonmember avatar Edward

I hope you're not married if you're saying that it's OK to cheat because of the size of a man's member. I'd hate it if you were my wife, I couldn't trust you. If your fidelity is based on penis size, you're the idiot; not the guy who's been cheated on.

LadyS... LadySaphira

no way, no how, would I ever consent to my husband taking pictures or filming me and we have been married for 20 years! I would be mortified if one of my children stumbled upon something like that, and you just don't know for sure it will not fall into the wrong hands some other way (one of their friends snooping, a robery, workmen in the home).

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