I'd Give Up Sex to Be Skinny


Funhouse mirrorWhat’s more important to you: having sex or being thin? If you said being thin, then you're in agreement with the 51 percent of women surveyed by Fitness Magazine who said that they would give up sex for a year in exchange for being thin.

A year is a long time. But I actually thought about it for a few minutes, wondering if the deal included masturbating. Because, in a fantasy world, I might give up sex for a year if it guaranteed that I would be thin for the rest of my life. And I could eat as much pasta and chocolate chip cookies as I wanted to. And don’t forget the potato chips, Spicy Thai ones please.

Unfortunately, I choose to live in reality, where this wouldn't actually happen. And even if it did, my husband would be in a bad mood for a year and I wouldn't want that.

But I am living proof that it gets harder to maintain your figure after you hit your 40s. Eat less, exercise more is easier than it sounds. At least for me. But does your changing body make you less attractive to your spouse or vice versa? Do you owe it to them to take care of your physical appearance?

I was 20 pounds lighter when I first met my husband. I'm not fat by any standard because I was divorce diet thin to begin with. But those 20 pounds were screaming at me when I looked at my underwear-clad self in an illuminated department store three-way mirror the other day. When I got home, I mentioned what I saw to my husband and he kind of sheepishly said, "I know." And I was embarrassed, mainly because over the course of the past year, I had let myself go.

So now I'm on a self-imposed food and exercise regimen. Not because my husband agreed with me. Fortunately for me, he finds me sexy even when I feel I'm at my worst. No, I'm doing it because I don't feel as good about myself as I want to. Getting back in shape and losing some weight is making me feel sexier in my skin.

I'm happy that I don't have to make the choice between being thin or having sex. Having sex with my husband makes me feel sexier, which, in turn, makes me feel better about my body. It's a not-so-vicious cycle. And in the meantime, I've stocked our bedroom with lots of candles.

Do you feel less sexy when you gain weight?


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Pishyah Pishyah

I feel equally as sexy, honestly.  And, I'D NEVER give up sex for weight loss. 

buffa... buffalove23

I would give up sex for a year to be skinny in an instant lol. After gaining some weight, I don't feel how I used to and would love to again.

mommix4 mommix4

I'd never do that. I'm very lucky that my husband and I have grown up together. Met at 17 married at 18 and now are almost 31. We are totally different both body wise and mental wise. He's seen me as a skinny teen an overweight 19 year old after 2 babies, a super skinny 22yr old an overweight 25yr old after another 2 babies and now a slim yet curvy 30yr old! Point is he finds me sexy heavy,thin, and in between!

bsawy... bsawyer84

My partner finds me sexy no matter what, but I don't. I'm on a big exercise regime right now. I've never been tiny (I'm 5'11") but I'd like to be slim again.

Mia81 Mia81

If i was not thin already i would give up anything required to be thin. I have only ever been slightly above the suggested weight for my height and i swear my skin felt so physically uncomfortable  i would not do that again.

ArmyGal ArmyGal

What does one have to do with the other? Was this some sort of contest? Because  I haven't had sex since Dec 16 2006, where can I sign up LOL. I'm in the process of losing all this extra weight though. Deff do not feel sexy with weight on since most of it goes to my face lmao.

tlc71372 tlc71372

From what I understand is that you lose 120 calories just by having sex. I used to weigh 205 and now weigh 151 but I would still not give up having sex with my hubby just to lose weight.

Sonri... Sonrisa502

I wouldn't... My husband loves me for who I am and I feel comfortable with myself. I might not be as thin as I would like, but I have two beautiful kids and a wonderful husband that all love me no matter what I look like. To me that is more important!

Corbi... CorbinsMomma

I give up sex for a year at a time anyway, so nothing new there.  I do feel ugly and less sexy since I put on weight.  I was a hot 100lbs when I got married and now (8yrs later) I'm 190..UGH.  Depression, deployment, kids, seizure meds, and just plain being lazy made me that way.  I was 160 about 2yrs ago (after being 210 a year prior) and felt way sexier than I do now. Its my goal to get back to 160.  I know I will never be 100lbs again (I was 19yrs old and doing a military PT program), but I want to get back to a healthier me.  I would give up sex for a year to get down again, but I'm already 2wks into no sex for a year so send that deal on over!!!!

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