Infidelity 'Hall Pass': Would Your Husband Jump on It?

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hall pass owen wilson jason sudeikisSo I'm sure you've heard about the new Owen Wilson movie, Hall Pass, in which two married men get one week to do whatever they please -- including bedding young, hot babes -- without consequences. Sound crazy? Britney Spears agrees. After seeing the movie, she tweeted: "Jason [Trawick] is NEVER getting a Hall Pass!"

I know Brit's only joking around here, but I might argue that a person's truly strong reaction against this whole hall pass scenario might tell a lot about the strength of her relationship in the first place.

How would your marriage stand up to the "hall pass" discussion, dear readers?

If you stop right now and consider for a moment the idea of the relationship or marital "hall pass," what's your reaction? Are you the woman who says, "Ha! Go for it" because you know your guy couldn't muster a single pickup line in a matter of a week -- or more importantly wouldn't even want to? Or does the idea kinda scare you? Do you say, "Hell no! What man could stand up to that kind of temptation?"

Of course, still others of you might be saying, "Hell no!" because the idea of a hall pass is just straight disrespectful to your marriage. The idea of even giving or taking one is just wrong, kinda gross, and really not the point of marriage or any monogamous relationship. However, if the idea of even discussing a hall pass truly makes you nervous, then you might want to consider why that is. Are you afraid your husband would take the challenge and run with it?

I haven't seen the film, but from what I can tell, the two wives are trying to make a point by setting up their 40-something, sex-obsessed husbands to fail by giving them "free access" to all the young, single hotties they think they could score were they not shackled by marriage. In turn, I'm guessing, this master plan is supposed to remind their husbands that they're old dudes who got no game, and who "simply forgot" to stop and appreciate the way-hotter-than-they-deserve wives -- played by Christina Applegate and Jenna Fischer -- they have at home.

Whatever, ha ha, it's funny, I guess ... But if my husband got as excited as these guys about taking an adulterous break from marriage -- or let's be honest, took me up on the idea in the slightest -- I'd be seriously worried about my relationship. And if any married guy's got that much "game" that he could throw down some serious cheat action on a one-week hall pass, then he's probably already cheating.

What's your reaction when you think of giving your partner a "hall pass"? What reaction do you think your partner would have to getting one?

Image via Hall Pass movie site

 

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Beths... Bethsunshine

A real marriage is a commitment between 2 people. If you want to have sex with other people, then don't get married in the first place.

nonmember avatar blueberries

This movie is silly but there are people out there who make it work. I think that's relatively rare though, as people tend to lean towards monogamy as the standard. If someone I knew was in an 'open' relationship, I wouldn't really think anything of it. It's not really my business how they manage their marriage. Even if I can't understand something like that, if they're making it work and it's their personal life, what difference does it make to me?

lazyw... lazywench

So when you get married your sex drive and attraction to all members of the opposite sex, aside from your spouse, gets shut off?  Oh no wait, it doesn't get shut off you're just supposed to be a bigger person and bash those nasty impulses down with a bat until they no longer affect you.  Pfft.  My husband and I can easily discuss, with all seriousness, the idea of a hall pass without automatically labeling even the idea of it as cheating.  Humans are sexual beings...obvious by the fact that it's a REQUIREMENT for our procreation.  There's no reason to suppress natural urges...you just take ideas like these and use them to spice up your own love life...even the healthiest of married-sex lives can benefit from new ideas.  You don't have to add new people, just talking about it can add a new or different spark to the repertoire.

Coburn Coburn

I wouldnt offer a hall pass because it would be horrible to think of that happening but doubtful my hubby would ever do a thing!

Ellen Dumouchel

Check out what what Rosemary Brennan says!

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2011/02/movie-surprises-i-loved-hall-p.html

masar... masaratiggy

I find the idea disgusting. My husband and I went into our marriage fully agreeing that we would have a monogamous relationship. That's not to say that the only person that I've ever found attractive is my husband. But those other people are just a pretty face, what my husband and I have is love, commitment and respect. With anyone else it would just be sex, and that doesn't do it for me. If someone else chooses to have an open relationship, that's between them as a couple. But it's not what I've chosen for my life.

briar... briarraindancer

My husband has had a hall pass for the entirety of our marriage. He's never once used it--and personally, I think it's one of the reasons we have such a fantastic relationship. 

winte... winterrose82

If your husband wants a "hall pass", you have deeper issues in your relationship than mere infidelity. 

skrawli skrawli

why get married if you are offering a free pass.  And I dont want him bringing things home.  We had some "swinger" friends (distant friends) and imagine that most of the marriages in the group broke up.  If you dont want it dont put a ring on it.  just sayin.

shinds shinds

No way would I give him a hall pass. And luckily I have an amazing man who wouldn't want or accept one!  Not all guys are as wonderful as mine though! ;-)

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