Public, 'Romantic' Proposals Are Too Dangerous!


At this point, a poor guy has to work his bum off to propose marriage in a creative way. Jumbotron, skywriting, romantic restaurant, blah, blah. They have all been done. So what is a poor guy who wants to create a memorable proposal to do?

David Jones -- a Cleveland-based video producer -- decided to propose to his girlfriend (now fiance) via commercial. She turned on the television at her hair salon and there was her boyfriend dressed as a superhero. Then he was there in real life, on one knee, asking her to marry him. Romantic, right?

Between proposing on Facebook and on CafeMom(!), people are using technology to propose all the time. The television is practically old-fashioned! But proposing in these ways is always a danger.

No one ever talks about the bad ones, like this one. A man proposed to a woman on a basketball court in front of hundreds of people and she said no!

Look, it happens. Luckily for Jones, his lady was into it. Their story is actually very sweet and romantic, in fact. She had cancer soon after they got together and he stuck by her and supported her, so more power to them. But personally, if I were a guy, I would go private. Just in case. 

My husband proposed by sending me on a scavenger hunt to all of our favorite places. At each place, he left a note sending me to the next place. Finally, we met on a bridge where he dropped to one knee and popped the question. Even though we were in "public," no one looked at us or said anything. It was perfect.

And then, of course, he had that to live up to. Nearly nine years after he proposed to me, he has yet to do anything as romantic as that proposal. What could he possibly do? Whisk me away on a private vacation (after arranging for babysitters and calling my work)? Serenade me John Cusack-style outside my window? There is nothing I can think of that would work as well.

Whenever people tell us what a great proposal story we have, it makes it clear he will never be able to top it. Not that I am complaining. It WAS romantic and wonderful and creative. It even got us on TV. But there is danger in giving it all away at the proposal. Remember, dudes, you're going to have to live up to that proposal. So, ask yourself two things before the big fanfare proposal:

  1. What is the likelihood that she will say yes? Anything below 99 percent is a sign for a quiet, intimate proposal.
  2. Will I be able to continue very romantic things throughout our life? If the answer is yes, carry on.

How did your husband propose?

Image via Boy27wonder/Flickr

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Beths... Bethsunshine

My husband proposed to me on a roller coaster ( The Hurler to be exact), ring and all!! I asked him what would he have done if he had dropped the ring, and he said "Jump over the side to get it, of course!!"

jalaz77 jalaz77

Mine did the scavenger thing too! Hard to top that. I would take a surprise vaca with none of the work besides packing.

Tracy Ellwanger

One of my good friends got engaged during a set by one of our favorite bands, String Fingers, at a restaurant surrounded by friends. He proposed during the song "In Your Company," a beautiful original love song by Dan Tressler. He got down on one knee with the ring at the line: "What about that golden ring? The one that you deserve..." The band stopped playing to await her answer, which was a resounding YES!!

See the proposal here:

FourK... FourKidsSoFar

My husband proposed inside a giant sequoia tree when we went to California for spring break my last year in college. It was perfect!

nonmember avatar meredith

My husband proposed in front of the Trevi Fountain in Rome when we were back packing through Italy in college. It was amazing, but yeah... five years of marriage and that still is probably the most romantic thing he's done. haha

nonmember avatar Lea

My husband proposed to me on my birthday in front of our friends. They sang happy birthday to me and when I closed my eyes to blow out the candles I opened them to find him on one knee. It was super sweet and I have to say I cried a little. He is a super romantic guy, so he is always making things special for me. He also knew I would say yes so no risk there :)

Ameri... AmericanChild82

I just got engaged last night. We had been talking about it for months and he finally did. He dropped down on one knee with a ring that was his mothers, with his mom and dad there. I of course said yes. It was intimate and romantic and absolutely perfect.

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