The Mario Lopez Marriage Mistake We Should Not Repeat

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mario lopezOh, Mario Lopez, with your deep dimples, perfect hair, and rock hard abs. You've been married, divorced, and now, you're the father of a baby girl conceived with your girlfriend, Courtney Mazza.

Last week, you used Howard Stern's show as your confessional booth to fess up to something that we all already knew: That you cheated on "long-term girlfriend turned fiance turned wife" Ali Landry. All the way up to the week of your wedding.

You were cheating on the woman that you had been with for seven years and you go ahead and marry her? Why? Because, as you said:

I think when you go out for a few years, you either take it to another level or you break up, right? There was nothing glaringly wrong on paper.

Huh? Really, that’s your excuse? Unfortunately, Lopez is not alone in getting married for the wrong reasons. Here are a few more mistakes that both men and women make when deciding whether to head down the aisle:

He or she has been given an ultimatum. Demanding to get married or else is never a good way to start a marriage. Ultimatums are usually based in the giver's own insecurities and fears.

It’s the next logical step. No, it's not. The next logical step is to wait until you want to get married because you want to get married.

It’s what your partner wants. She wants to get married, take your last name, and start a family. (Or vice versa.) Well, do you? Because if you're doing it for them, chances are you're going to regret it later.

You owe it to him/her. You owe it to both of you to listen to your inner voice. If it's not saying that you should run to the altar together, there's a reason.

Your biological clock is ticking. Wrong. Not a reason to get married. But if you really want to have a baby, then have a baby. Single parenting is really hard, but it's easier than being a parent in a bad marriage.

Get married because you're both madly, passionately in love and want to spend the rest of your lives together in a partnership that makes you feel like the two of you, as a team, can overcome anything. Your chance at a happy, successful, long-lasting marriage will be much higher.

Did someone you know get married for the wrong reason? Did the marriage last?

 

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sweet... sweetcherry_59

I completely agree with this...now I wonder if I send a link to one of my friends if she would get mad. She needs a wake up call haha!

Abby Lynch

Another reason that needs to be added to your list: You're pregnant and feel it's the "right thing to do". Of course if you have a child together, you should be married. But not at the cost of the child. If two people happen to find themselves pregnant before they were planning to, running to the alter before you are ready is just going to make the situation harder, most of the time. In a perfect world everyone would be married before having children, but hormones win out sometimes, and/or contraceptives fail.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

I have to say... We did get married while I was pregnant. For years I felt it was because I was pregnant. Took me alooong time before I accepted that it was right. Imve grown up and more in love with my husband over the past 7 years. I would change the circumstances and maybe waited a year or 2 more before we got married but yea.. Things happen and sometimes they rnt so bad.

Abby Lynch

I don't want it to sound like I think getting married because you're preganat is always a bad thing. Just for some couples it could be.

Abby Lynch

*pregnant

chave... chavela_carlita

Yes, I know someone who got married for the wrong reasons...ME.


A month before I turned 18, I had my daughter...we got married when she was 3 months old. 


Why? Because it's the right thing to do. Right?


NOT.


Having a baby is NOT a reason to get married. I went ahead and did it because it was what everyone else was telling me was the right thing to do...I'll even admit, when the judge said, "If anyone has just cause that these two should not be married, speak now or forever hold you peace", I wanted to tell him, "Sorry, but I can't do this." But I was too chickenshit. So I went through with it. 


And no, it did not work out. I ended up leaving him when I was 24 because I finally realized that having children with someone does NOT mean you have to marry them...and leaving him was one of the BEST decisions I have EVER made. 

nonmember avatar Sandy

I married very young because it seemed like the 'next logical step'. I stayed married for 30+ years because that's what I thought I was supposed to do. The marriage was over years before it officially ended. When I accepted that even though I thought I wanted to be married, I didn't NEED to be married I was content. And, then I fell in love, really fell in love. I still didn't need to be married to this man I loved and he wasn't interested in marriage either with a couple of marriages 'for all the wrong reasons' under his belt. After 4-1/2 years he asked me to marry him. I was speechless - for just a moment - before I said 'yes'. I think we both learned a lot over the years - we're together because we want to be, not because of any preconceived notions about why we 'should' be.

Lisa J Zhang

I don't know ... my husband and I wanted to move on with our life together, to buy a house, have children and be fully invested in one another.  I suppose we could have attempted all of this without the stability offered by marriage, but why?!  We have our struggles ... if we were ... dating (?), we would have walked out long ago.  Marriage is OUR COMMITMENT to one another.  It is a comfort we share together, being linked in this rare way ... my husband is flawed as am I, but we are making things work together.  Interestingly, I don't believe we have every been "head over heels" in passionate love, something I have been for far lesser men.


Life is a struggle and there is little security in undemonstrated commitment.

Tina Incalcaterra Bannon

believe it or not, i know a military couple that got married because they wanted to move out of the dorms. they were too low ranking to receive a housing allowance, so they decided to get married, because married couples automatically get housing allowance. obviously, this couple didn't make it.

also, in the military, hundreds of couples get married every year for the "wrong reason". they get married because they don't want to get separated. this happens mostly in tech school. after basic, you go to learn your job. you're in a dorm (married or not) for anywhere from 6 weeks to 9 months for training. then you get your assignment to your first "permanent" base. while in training, you meet someone and fall in love, right? except that this isn't the real world. it's not unlike a vacation romance. i'm not saying these romances can't last, but to marry someone you've only known for a couple of months because you don't want to be separated rarely works. i personally know five couples who were "tech school marriages"-- not one lasted over three years. on the other hand, i MET my husband in tech school. we were together for 5 months before getting shipped off to our respective bases 500 miles apart. we kept it together long distance, and when i was medically separated from the air force 18 months after getting to my first base, i moved out to his base. we just celebrated 11 years together, and next week is our 7th anniversary.....

Tracy Koral

Hahaha, I broke several of these rules.  I gave my husband an ultimatum. I told him that I wasn't getting younger, I wanted to marry and have children and I wasn't waiting forever.  He had a choice, we get married or I move on.  We got married.   Fifteen years later we have had our fair share of joy and adversity.  We've had four children and buried one.  He had cancer, we had jobs we loved and jobs we hated.  In spite of all this we are still happily married.  Some men need a nudge down the road to marriage.  Some men need reminding that they don't have all the time in the world. 


 

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