Is Herpes a Deal-Breaker? These Daters Say No


holding handsThe last time you clicked onto an online dating site, you were likely bombarded with a series of questions -- most of them personal. What is your ideal night out? What qualities do you want in a partner? That kind of thing.

But how would you feel if your dating service got a little more personal? For example, how would you feel if they asked about your medical history, specifically your STD history? Well, a Canada dating service has done just that, adding a division to its company that is specifically focused on matching individuals with genital herpes.

Think for a moment: If there's already an interest for sites that match potential couples based on religious, ethnic, and sexual preferences, then a dating site for people with herpes makes perfect sense, doesn't it?

Genital herpes affects about 1 in 6 people ages 14 to 49, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. That's a lot of people, if you think about it. And in Canada, some of these people are thankful that there is a dating service like Camelot Introductions that understands the obstacles that come along with herpes on the dating scene.

Lianne Tregobov, a Camelot employee, explains that the company added the herpes question to an already thorough list of questions they present their clients upon joining their service.

We match based on compatibility and based on acceptance. Every single person is asked are you open to it? Yes or no.

And according to Tregobov, clients are often open to being matched to others with herpes even if they don't have the condition themselves. It's the fact that they're being upfront and honest about it that really matters.

If I had genital herpes, which I don't, would I list it? Definitely, because it gets the uncomfortable conversation out of the way. Just like I would want a guy to know about my religious affiliation or desire to have "X" amount of kids, I would want them to know about a condition that does somewhat affect my life.

A dating service like this one lets you put it all out on the table, take it or leave it. If a man is going to ditch you after finding out that you have herpes -- then you're better off without him. With that said, it doesn't make the process any easier or the heartbreak any less. Call me a pessimist, but at least this way, some may be able to avoid it or even find someone who is that much better because of it.

What do you think, would you list an STD on a dating profile?

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ocmom... ocmommy2two

My best friend has herpes, and that hasn't stopped her. She's on one of those STD sites, and has quite the dating life.

nonmember avatar juliarix

About 16 percent of Americans between the ages of 14 and 49 are infected with genital herpes, making it one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases, U.S. health officials said on Tuesday. Maybe this is the reason that why there are more than 680,000 members on the STD dating site pozmingle//. Hope all the people take care and find love.

nonmember avatar Shelly

Maybe if people didn't sleep around and have no values...just saying.

Anast... Anastazia975

Well Shelly, Aren't you the judgemental one! People don't just get STDS because they sleep around. It can be transmitted through rape. You might be the only monogamous one in your relationship, or it could have been transmitted via birth. I do highly suggest that you educate yourself post haste on the subject before you decide to judge the masses. Maybe if people were not so quick to throw stones at others before thinking.....Just saying.

nonmember avatar Anonymous Ho

Nice, Shelly. Because only immoral people with tons of sexual partners can get STDs, right? People like me...2 sex partners in 25 years, both of them long-term relationships that didn't become sexual right away. And yes, I got herpes from Partner #2 (who, incidentally, is now my husband of 10+ years and the father of my children). Yeah, maybe if I wasn't such a HUMONGOUS SLUTBAG I wouldn't have the herp. Thanks for the insight...

Pishyah Pishyah

Hmmm....  Or, people in a marriage who were cheated on and then infected.  Yeah, they should have KNOWN BETTER than to be promiscuous! 


Let's get real.  80% of sexually active adults have a form of herpes, HSV1 or 2.  Just because it is on your mouth and not  your vagina or penis doesn't mean you're any more special than those that have it on their genitals and not their mouth because you CAN give it to your partner's genitalia, lol.  That's right, herpes is still herpes. 

I don't know if I'd join one of those STD sites but I think it is great for those that would and I am glad there are people out there finding love with those who are already infected, too.

lizzeh lizzeh

I gotz mouth herpes. I got it from sharing drinks at school. Lolz.

nonmember avatar Shelly

I was being sarcastic...geez people! I was joking!!! My goodness. I've known lovely people who have caught herpes. Given the huge amount of people that have herpes, OBVIOUSLY it's not just people who sleep around that get them. I guess I'm not as sensitive to sarcasm as most...

Felicia Cain

I love it when people back down after they are attacked, lol.  It was just a joke ya'll!  Yea right, lol.  I find that people who comment about others downfalls are usually the ones who know about it first hand.  Takes one to know one right.......


If I wasnt Married, I couldn't be with someone who had any STD - but since my Husband isn't just "someone" (He is THE perfect Man, and We were made for each other), He would've been the exception.

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