If you could have one week "off" from your marriage, what would you do? Would you have sex with seven hot men? Go on vacation with the girls? Or would you even want that week off at all?
This is the question the new movie Hall Pass is asking us. The movie stars Owen Wilson and Christina Applegate among others and shows the bumbling of a group of men when their wives offer them "a week off marriage without consequences to do whatever they want."
And while the movie is a comedy, which I'm guessing ends with all the semi-dorky husbands realizing how much they love their wives, the question is an intriguing one. What might a "hall pass" look like and would we even want one?
I posed the question to my own husband who said unequivocally no. "I wouldn't know what to do with myself."
Both of us agreed that if we could have a week off, we would want to spend it together, away from the kids. I would also love a week to myself, at a spa somewhere with my best (female) friend. But even that wouldn't constitute time off from my marriage.
Obviously the movie is a comedy, and I am sure in that way, it will be funny and worth seeing, but in real life, such a concept would be ugly. In fact, even wanting a "hall pass" in the first place is a bit depressing. We all want time off, don't get me wrong.
Who wouldn't love to visit a spa or have one day alone in their house -- no work, no kids, no spouse -- to dance in front of the mirror, read books, and lounge? But I still want my kids and husband back at the end. I don't really want time "off" from them, just time away from responsibilities every once in a while.
Pop culture's view of marriage is often so dim. The idea always seems to be that men are trapped in loveless marriages with spouses who browbeat them and treat them poorly. Sure, marriage is hard, but if you marry well (and I don't mean for money), then you shouldn't feel like that. If you do, you need more than a "hall pass," my friend.
People get married for all kinds of reasons, but the best ones and the reason people really should choose to spend their lives together is simple: you enjoy each other's company. Yes, you should also love the person and want to tear their clothing off on a fairly regular basis, but all the rest is really just noise.
If you really feel you need a week off from your marriage, that is probably the most important time to spend a week together. Preferably alone.
Would you want a "hall pass"?
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