The Marriage Secret Only Celebrities Know?


Diane KrugerIs being married necessary? Not according to Diane Kruger, the actress of Inglourious Basterds and National Treasure fame. In the March issue of Glamour, Kruger has this to say about marriage:

Without sounding pessimistic, I learned that I don't believe in marriage. I believe in a commitment that you make in your heart. There's no paper that will make you stay.

And Kruger speaks from experience. She was married at the age of 25 to French actor and director Guillaume Canet. Their marriage lasted just five years.

Since 2006, Kruger has been with boyfriend Joshua Jackson but says they have no plans to tie the knot.

And they're not the only celebrities that seem to feel that way.

These celebrity couples, in long-term relationships, don't seem to be in a hurry to make their unions legal either:

Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis: The two have been together for over 12 years and have two children. Depp has said that he doesn't need the formality of a legal document but that if Paradis wanted it, they would get married.

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt: A couple since 2005, Jolie and Pitt have been very vocal about not getting married until everyone is given marriage equality. Both have been married before (Jolie twice and Pitt once) and they have six children.

Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves: After 5 years and two children together, McConaughey, known for playing the unmarried lead in more than a few romantic comedies, and Alves, the host of Bravo's Shear Genius, are still unmarried. Alves has pressed McConaughey to make their relationship legal, partly for financial security for the kids, but so far, it hasn't happened.

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell: Having been together for almost 30 years, these two are the original unmarried long-term Hollywood couple. Both were married prior to beginning their relationship and have children from those relationships as well as a son together. Hawn has said that she likes knowing that their relationship is a choice.

Obviously, not being married works for these couples and others who have long-term relationships without the legality of marriage. Not being married wouldn't work for me. I don't judge those who choose to forgo marriage but I guess I'm just traditional at heart. Traditional in the way that you can be if you've been divorced and remarried. It just feels right.

Is being married part of your must-have in a long-term relationship?

Image via Glamour

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JenBr... JenBrooks76

My husband and I were together for six years before we got married. It was more for the rest of the family than for us lol...and I think we would be just as happy together with or without that piece of paper. I have to agree with Diane Kruger-it is a commitment of the heart that counts. 

momof... momof030404

If its "just a piece of paper" then why is it such a big deal and such a game changer to get it?

Katie Sasso

I agree with both of you. On the one hand calling each other husband and wife doesn't make a relationship. But I also say that if you love someone that much you should be willing to make it harder to walk away from them. Marriage does not a relationship make but I do think it's important to take that stand, to say "I am yours and you are mine and I love you enough to make this legal committment"

ZsMommy ZsMommy

If you believe in commitment through the eyes of God...YES....

If you view it as just a legal binding -probably not...


AngiDas AngiDas

I think it is true that a piece of paper will make you stay faithful or keep the love in the relationship. Look at the amount of divorces that happen each year.

hotic... hoticedcoffee

For me, personally, I like being "married", but it wasn't something that was important to me before we had kids.  My husband and I had already been together for 10 years and one month on the day we got married, and we got married because we were ready to start a family.  Neither of us would choose to have children outside of wedlock.

I don't see why ANYONE in Hollywood gets married - it just seems like 2 people who make their living pretending to be something they aren't probably aren't the best life-long mates.

Jeann... JeannieMS

No piece of paper will make a difference, it's the commitment you make in your mind and heart that counts. The thing is that some people make that commitment through marriage, and some don't. Simple.

JessL... JessLogansMommy

For me, the commitment could have been made without the legal part, but I wanted to have the same last name as my children.  I wonder if weddings weren't such a big deal if there would be as many marriages.  

nonmember avatar Ocean breeZe

I think marriage is more than a verbal agreement its a life to share with another to be a family and share bed accounts children rings I dnt think shaking up with someone for life is acceptable your telling the world and god your ready to give yourself legally in his eyes I just dnt understand y people always want to judge and break the rules being dear devils

nonmember avatar LarryD

In my humble opinion, marriage should be a fixed-term contract. That means it expires! It could be a 1 year contract or 5 or 10 or whatever, your choice. Imagine the conversation near the end of your contract! "Well honey, any chance you'll sign on for another year?" "I don't know. I can't remember the last time you took out the garbage without me having to remind you!" "Oh baby, I promise I'll do it!" (grovel grovel)

That's just one scenario. I can imagine a bunch of others.

In the end, I guess I don't. Commitment to another does not have to be represented by anything, it just has to be.

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