You may know Brooke Burke as a former contestant-turned-host on Dancing With the Stars, the CEO of ModernMom.com, or the designer of postpartum shapewear. Now, the mother of four can add another line to her resume: Author of the new book, The Naked Mom: A Modern Mom's Fearless Revelations, Savvy Advice, and Soulful Reflections.
I know, I don't blame you if you're thinking, "Yeah, NOT really sure that someone as Hollywood as Brooke has the right to tell me to get naked!" But the main question she's asking readers is something I think all women -- especially moms -- should frequently consider: "Does the libido always have to take one for the team?"
What she means is the following ...
Most women give up a lot to become mothers, and the lover always seems to be the first part of a mom's identity to go AWOL ... Sexuality and motherhood are not mutually exclusive.
I LOVE that Brooke is calling attention to a particularly challenging aspect of being a mom -- one that all too often flies under the radar. I hear it from my friends, and I feel it in my own life. We have so much to do and never enough hours in the day. Because of this, we end up consciously or subconsciously feeling guilty for prioritizing our sexual desires.
But Brooke says we have to kick those feelings to the curb! She argues that we NEED our erotic lives, because sex is a much-deserved break from the "give, give, give nature of motherhood." (Even if you're not a mom, you have to admit, as women -- we have that tendency to give, give, give to our bosses, our boyfriends, our family, etc.)
She also reassures us that the traits that make women such great moms (like generosity, playfulness, devotion, imagination, etc.) also contribute to them being amazing lovers -- and vice versa! The key, it seems, is to tap into that rich complexity of womanhood and acknowledge that ...
Behind many a sweet, wholesome mom ... there is a feral woman. A carnal self, a sort of secret slut. She is you, unfiltered, unedited, unapologetic.
She is so right! We can't let our sexual selves slip away because of stress, work, a laundry list of to-dos that stretches from here to China, or just because motherhood happened. We have to keep it real, as 3-D, sex-y women. Sex is a centerpiece to our overall mental, physical, and emotional well-being.
So, thanks, Brooke Burke! Because of your new book, hopefully some always-dressed ladies will think differently about the necessity of getting Naked.
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