We all enter any relationship full of emotional baggage. Whether it's the way we act in relationships or something more physical and tangible like children or baby mama drama.
With Emily, a contestant on The Bachelor, her drama has always been a huge impediment to finding love again. When she was 19, her fiance, NASCAR driver/owner Ricky Hendrick, was killed in a plane crash. A few days later, she found out she was pregnant with her daughter who is now 5.
When men find out, "they bail," Emily has said a few times. On Monday night on the fifth episode of season 15 of the show, it seemed like maybe Brad Womack -- no emotional dynamo himself -- might do the same.
If you believe the spoilers, it seems Emily will be in the final two and then will be passed over for another girl. So Brad, in his infinite humanity void, decided it was better for Emily to break her heart? Again?
She is on a show where heartbreak is the risk you take, so I can accept that part. What is harder to accept is this obsession with her "baggage." She is 24 and admittedly has been through a lot, but it's hard to believe that her particular baggage would be so egregious if it were "merely" a dead fiance.
That is tragic and heartbreaking, but the real kicker for men (and unspoken by Emily) seems to be the child thrown into the mix. For her, the pregnancy likely saved her life, but for men, her daughter may seem like a permanent tie to the man she lost. But isn't every child a permanent tie to someone? Even when the father is absentee or only comes around once a month, a child permanently links the two people who had him or her.
The fact is, we all bring "baggage" into a relationship. Some is heavier than others -- credit card debt, alcoholism, unfinished "wild oats" -- while other baggage is lighter, but even if you got married at 17, you're still bringing something into a relationship that the other person must deal with.
Emily is a beautiful woman on the outside and seems to be the same on the inside. If I were a man, her daughter and tragic story seem like a better deal than Michelle's "baggage" (an evil, conniving personality) or Chantal's (daddy issues).
I am Team Emily!
Did you bring "baggage" into your relationship?
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