Shapewear in the Bedroom Isn't Fooling the Guys


sexciesHey ladies with flab, great news! There's yet another new product designed to hide your stomach from your sexual partner. And this one still gives him easy access.

"SexCies" have two parts: a "fold flattener" corset for your flab and a pair of removable panties for you to make sexytime. Because he's totally not going to get that you've got a big old slab of cellulite hiding under that corset. Uh huh. You keep telling yourself that.

I'm going to get real here. You are fooling no one with that corset/pair of Spanx/dark lighting. Even with bedroom shapewear, guys know we've got belly fat. And now for the real shocker.

They don't really care. Except for the total tools who won't sleep with a woman unless she's stick thin -- and good luck to them in finding one who can't spot him for the self-absorbed prick he is -- guys are pretty even-handed about sharing their beds with ladies of all sizes. According to one study out of the University of Hawaii a few years back, it could even be said that women with a little meat on their bones get more sex than our skinny sisters.

Men aren't stupid. No, really, we can joke about it on girls' night, but when the average guy sees us out on date night shoved into a girdle, with our control top pantyhose, I'd hate to think that it's our flattened flesh that makes him think, "Yeah, I wanna get this girl in bed." What happened to our sparkling conversation? Our sweet, soulful eyes? Our quick wit? I want him to see through the woman who is still uncomfortable with her post-pregnancy body to the smart, funny, sexy woman that remains inside.

And once we're in the bedroom, who gives two craps what he thinks of the paunch that two Zumba classes a week will never completely carve away? He wants me for everything else that makes me sexy, right? So the way my skin sags from the stretchmarks won't mean a thing?

I'm sure SexCies and other bedroom shapewear will appeal to the women they're marketing it to -- postpartum women who are still feeling self-conscious about that new belly or that C-section scar. Maybe it will give you confidence. But here's what should make you feel even better in the bedroom: he knows what's under there. And he still wants to have sex with you.

Would you wear shapewear in the bedroom?


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Lynette Lynette

I would!   DH knows and loves every inch of me but something like that is more for me than him.  Give me some sexy confidence :)

nonmember avatar missy

This would be all about me and my perception of my body after 3 kids. Its hard to feel sexy when I look at my own stomach now. My hubbie has been all over me in our 7 years together, with 65 lbs between my highest (non preg) weight and my lowest!!!!

butte... butterflyspiral

I totally agree with Lynette.  I would wear just to make myself feel sexier.  It has nothing to do with my dh.  I know he loves me and wants me, but it would definitely help me feel more in the mood.  And I'm sure he wouldn't mind looking at me.

halliep halliep

Staying sexy in the bedroom (or anywyhere) is all about attitude and feeling proud of who we are.  Had a customer tell me, "I'm 40,single, and take my clothes off in front of men. I hate the panty lines of pantyhose; what can I do?"

We designed a sexy, French cut bikini top for our hosiery ( Whether married for decades (me) or still single, it makes us just FEEL great--whether there's a man around or not!  We deserve to feel as magnificent as we are.

2love 2love

I wouldn't wear that. It's ridiculous. If he can't except my body after HIS baby altered the shape lol then he can't have it. :) Plus I wanna do it with NO clothes on. Where's the skin on skin connection if you're wearing sexcie's?

nonmember avatar anon

I am sorry to say that the picture posted here with that ridiculous product is the grossest thing I have ever seen. I am so happy to still have a tight tummy after 3 kids with no sagging and no stretch marks. I think if I looked like that I would be too disgusted with myself to even think about being intimate with my husband. Yes, I know it is totally shallow to think that way - but it is just how I feel. Nothing grosses me out more than fat and flab. So happy my husband also keeps his appearance up.

iam4you2 iam4you2

My husband loves my belly after having three kids! Although there's not much there he would rather have some cushion then it to be flat before I had my last 3 kids!!

nonmember avatar Sophia

I like it! I had 2 natural births and my husband always compliments me. Wearing lingerie helps me get into the mood, it makes me feel sexy to dress up :)

Suzy_qy Suzy_qy

Hello, all, this is Suzy Mac, the creator of SexCies, and Stay at Home Mother of three. I want to invite you to understand why I created this product...I think you will be surprised:

Also, my response to this and the other article on CafeMom here:

Thank you for listening. :)

Suzy_qy Suzy_qy

Suzy Mac again, MUST respond to "anon" here (I am not surprised this was done anonymously, someone abviously did not want to be identified for their comment).

That is MY tummy pictured, the one  "with that ridiculous product is the grossest thing (you)have ever seen."

Wow, anon, you have led a priveledged life, if my my pictured stomach is the bane of your existence.

I am so happy that you have clarified for the group exactly why we women with "fat" and "flab" feel so self-conscious about our tummies...if a WOMAN says that belly flap is the grossest thing, wow...I think you have proved my point perfectly, thank you for that. :)

I think if I looked like that I would be too disgusted with myself to even think about being intimate with my husband.

Yes, anon, again,exactly. It was this reason that I created SexCies, to feel better about my "gross" tummy.

Nothing grosses me out more than fat and flab.

So sorry to have offended you. A warning to everyone else: don't look at the picture here of my belly, you may go blind.

I appreciate you bringing this up, have validated my product more than I ever possibly could have. Take care.

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