My Sexy Photo Shoot: How I Made It Extra Hot

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As a mom, there are very few opportunities to look hot. We have the occasional date night or the night out with the girls. But even those are usually rushed and we're rarely able to channel our old foxy selves.

A few months ago, I was offered an opportunity to shake off the "mom" role and try something new. Since I'm always up for a challenge and thought it sounded like fun, I agreed to try a "boudoir photo shoot" courtesy of Focal Impulse Studio in Boston. 

The end result is in the photos below (and on their blog), but the experience was unique and I would say for anyone feeling a little unsexy, this is a great way to remedy that. The photos also make a romantic and sexy Valentine's or birthday gift.

Here are a few things I wished I had known going in:

Wine: You will be nervous. I am typically a very confident person, but I was nearly shaking when I went into the shoot. Wine helps calm the nerves and relax your face. Don't get smashed, but enjoy a glass and your photos will be better. Make it white for the sake of your mouth (unless you want the "vamp" look).

Bring a friend: D. Markus Witt is the Focal Impulse photographer. He works along with his live-in partner who goes by Bebe Dollface. Both were present at my shoot, but having a male photographer is a little more nerve wracking for some than a woman might be. It wasn't as hard as I expected, but I was still glad I had my sister along to help me out. 

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Time: Focal Impulse offers a variety of packages, from the $150 "Quickie Slam" to the $300 3-hour shoot. I was initially signed up for the latter, but had another engagement, so my time was cut short. It was my own fault, but I think if I had stayed longer, I would have relaxed more. Since it's probably the only time in my life where I will be fawned over and fussed upon like a model, I wish I had taken my full three hours.

Be true to your "look": My makeup was the one part of my shoot that I paid for and I asked for a full made-up look, which, in retrospect, was a mistake. I am an all natural lady, so when the photos came back, both my husband and I were taken aback. "You look better without makeup," he said almost immediately, which was a bit of a disappointing reaction. The photos grew on him, but seeing me look so far from the woman he sleeps next to every night was a challenge.

Look at some pinup photos first: The classic pinup poses aren't as easy as they look. What looks effortless to the camera is actually not at all. Holding one's legs aloft and smiling and making sure that your hands have purpose and your tummy is pulled in and everything is in place is stressful and a lot of work. "Wriggle in your sexy," Bebe kept saying, which was probably the best advice. It's much more natural to keep moving and helps avoid the wax sculpture look.

Choose clothing ahead of time: I threw my suitcase together in 20 minutes just before the shoot and that was a mistake. In later weeks there were a lot of things I wished I had worn. Had I put more thought into it, I may have had more variety, and the outfits are a huge part of the shoot.

Don't do it yourself: This is something you want to hire pros for. It's a splurge, but you can make a private book for your husband, and these are professional photographs that are retouched and colored to perfection. It's a huge confidence boost to know that given the right lighting and airbrushing (see below), we can all look Hollywood glam.

It's a great way to boost your sexual confidence and give your husband an amazing surprise. If you follow these tips, it should be one of the more memorable experiences of your life.

Would you ever try this?


Professional images via Focal Impulse

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Would totes try. And you look BEAUTIFUL.

Patrick Berzai

Focal Impulse is awesome! They do great work.

ZsMommy ZsMommy

I would if I found a studio I felt comfortable with.

jeann... jeannesager

You look so beautiful Sasha!!

nonmember avatar Anony-moose

My husband does photography professionally as a side gig (he works full time in another field). Recently, in the aftermath of a medically-related 'bump' in the sexual part of our relationship, he suggested we do a shoot or two. I.. was feeling decidely unsexy. A hormonal condition had caused weight gain, a surgery had given me tummy scars. It was winter, and so I was pasty white. In other words, I had a million excuses. After some convincing and some wine, we did it. He touches them up, though not to any point that we can't tell who it is. I find it very sexy, actually. He makes me feel like a star. It ends up being some pretty good foreplay. It was pretty liberating, and sometimes, when you get into a cycle of feeling bad about your body, and wanting to hide it, and you keep telling yourself that one day you'll lose that 10 lbs and THAT'S when you'll be ready to be hot again, it can be nice to have the unbiased observer (camera) show you that you aren't the fat cow your brain keeps saying you are.
Do it. It's a feel-good gift to yourself, too.

PRMom... PRMommy86

if I could afford it Id def do it.

CafeEm CafeEm

Va va voom! You look great Sasha!

Amyin... AmyinMotown

Very cool! You look great....hard to tell you were nervous.

Karen... KarenRN429

First of all, you look great!

Secondly, I have already done this. About 12 years ago. As part of my wedding photography package I got the traditional bridal portrait where you dress in your full wedding-day regalia and get your big-ass 16x20" portrait. There was no way I was getting a portrait of mysel fthat large, and if was going to put my dress on and have my hair and make-up done, it was going to be for the wedding day! So, instead, I called my photographer and asked if I could do a shoot in my wedding lingerie.

He had never had anyone do that before, but was totally willing. So one of my bridesmaids accompanied me and I ended up with a nice little private book for my hubby:) I loved it and would def do it again.

psych... psychmama

I would love to do that for my hubby.


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