MadonnaCould you live in a sexless marriage? Madonna and Guy Ritchie are rumored to not have had sex in the last 18 months of their marriage. David Arquette told Howard Stern that he and wife Courteney Cox didn't have sex in the four months leading up to their separation.

What about you? How often do you and your husband have sex? Once a week? Once a month? How about once a year?

If you’re one of the lucky ones, who averages a few times a week, how about this: what if you never had sex? Would you survive in a sexless marriage?

I wouldn't.

Yes, I know,  there is more to a marriage than sex. But sex is one of the things that differentiates your marital relationship from your other intimate relationships. I mean, I'm really close with my parents, my brother and a handful of girlfriends. But I don't have sex with them. (Gross.)

And sure, many couples tend to have less sex the longer they've been married and as they get older. Quantity decreases for a variety of reasons: you start a family, your work is demanding, and your body changes. You fall into bed at night exhausted just wanting to pass out so you can get up in the morning and do it all over again.

Of course, there are things you can do to up the quantity of sex in your marriage, starting with the "30 Days of Sex" challenge. You can also have a pre-planned sex rendezvous. Maybe not the most romantic but the end result is the same; a feeling of being closer to one another. Not to mention getting all the health benefits that come with having sex.

But what if both people don't care about sex? Then is it a match made in heaven? Assuming both people are okay with the lack of sex in their marriage, then that's their ideal level. I guess it is possible to be in a loving, caring relationship without sex. It's just that I thought that was called friendship.

A sexless marriage wouldn't work for me.

Would it work for you?

 

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