Dear Dating Mom:
My BF is following all these sexy women on Twitter that he doesn’t even know. It bothers me. He says it’s no big deal, but I feel like he is flirting. Should I be worried? These women are all blonde with light eyes while I’m a brunette with brown eyes, so I’m wondering if I’m not his really his type and if so should I just end the relationship now?
Is It Time to Move On?
Dear Is it Time to Move On:
Well, let’s see. Is he tweeting things like, “What are you wearing right now?” or stuff more like, “So what do YOU think of nationalized healthcare?”
Big difference, no?
Now my other question to you is, how often is he tweeting back and forth with these women and have you noticed any real changes in his behavior toward you? You know, such as, he’s been leaving colored contact lenses on tables all around your apartment or boxes of Clairol Hair Care for women in either “blond ash” or their most recent addition to the color palette, along with a note: “Use this and I will continue to sleep with you.”
If so, then you might have a problem on your hands and should consider the possibility that this relationship is not going to end with you in a wedding dress telling him “I do,” but more like with you, in your sweatpants, sans makeup, tossing his shit out the door and screaming, at the top of your lungs, “Sayonara, motherf**ker!
NOT that there is anything wrong with that at all.
But first, I would talk to him. Find out how long he’s been tweeting back and forth with them and why, and let him finish answering your question before you start to jump to conclusions.
Then, when he is all done talking, if you still feel compelled to toss a ceramic bowl at his head while yelling, “f**king ass liar,” well, be my guest, although I would suggest you choose a much “lighter’ weapon. Doing 10-12 years in the State Prison for Women is not where you’re going to be wanting to spend your twilight years.
How do I know? I watched three whole seasons of A&E’s Women on Death Row, so trust me when I say I know what I’m talking about here.
All men have their fantasies. They look at other women, sometimes even picturing what life would be like living with one of them. It’s normal. Very few of us end up with exactly what we want in our mate. Sometimes, we end up so far from “exactly” that we end up leaving them (and their mother), but usually, we stay because the compromise was worth it, you know, like the mother is dead or something.
However, that doesn’t stop us from wondering “what if?” And as long as we don’t go exploring to the point where “what if?” turns into "that," then I don't see any reason to run.
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