Proposing Marriage on Facebook? Say Yes!


FacebookGoodbye Jumbotron proposal. You've been replaced. Allow us to present romance 2.0: marriage proposal via Facebook. It goes against my inner curmudgeon to say this, but this is one old-fashioned tradition that can't be hurt by technology.

Even on Facebook, it's the thought that counts. The first example I've seen popped up on Imgur recently, where the poster covered up names to give the couple a semblance of privacy. The guy asked, the girl said yes, and 11 friends "liked" it.

Facebook proposalThat he used a personal anecdote shows he put thought into this, and her response shows he was right on the mark. With the amount of time most of us spend online these days, it's as appropriate if not more than taking her to her favorite place. Maybe he read about the dad allowed on CafeMom just this once so he could propose to his girlfriend, an ardent CafeMom fan? That dad was just catering to his girlfriend's favorites to create the perfect proposal, and it worked. The same goes for popping the question via social media to a networking junkie.

And before you argue it's impossible to be "personal" on Facebook in front of hundreds of your "friends," it's perhaps the most personal public space there is. We'd see nothing wrong with a man dropping to his knee in the middle of the family's reunion or a crowded restaurant full of strangers. So why not on Facebook, where she's surrounded by the very people she's allowed into her inner circle to see her photos and the status updates on the minutiae of her day.

Especially in a time when it's hard to bring family and friends together from far flung places for the big moment, this could be the only way to ensure their involvement in the moment if (and this is a big if) that's the sort of proposal she would want. That's what it always comes back to. Whether it's in a sports arena on the big screen, in your bedroom, or on Facebook, the proposal has to be about what works for the two of you.

Hey, if nothing else, you won't have to spend time making all those phone calls to friends and family with the big news. You can spend that time snuggling instead. Would you "like" a Facebook proposal?

Images via Facebook; Imgur

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jenae... jenae_gist

Mine was via FB. I loved it!

jmtmn jmtmn

Not for me personally but I think it's pretty cute. Also, based on his post she was aware that he was intending to propose and was even involved in asking the parents for their blessing so it's not like it was a shock to her. I don't know if she would have taken it quite so well if it had been a surprise proposal via FB.

LindA... LindAngeLevi

That's just wrong I think a guy should get down on one knee Facebook that's pretty sad

Brade... BradenIsMySon

Mine was via CafeMom...and I said yes. It was perfect for me.

Evilf... Evilfelly07

I mean if its good for them, who am i to say different. 

Me i like it in person a little better. ;)

daydr... daydreaminmom

It's fine for someone that thinks that's romantic, then fine for them. But I personally do not and think it's sorta lazy.

Charity Ponton

I would prefer in person, but if a proposal via Facebook is what works for them then who am I to say anything against it?  I wish them the best :)

Vanessa Hawerchuk

I guess it could have been worse.
He could have just changed their status from in a relationship to engaged and hope she accepted.

debby... debbymichelle

As jmtmn pointed out, I also noticed that she knew it was coming, which means he knew she would accept.  So, I guess it worked out for them.  But in general, I am opposed to any kind of surprise public proposal, because I think it makes the woman feel pressured to say yes to save embarrassing her boyfriend. 

usdra... usdragonflies

I would have told him to try again.

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