Using Lube Doesn't Make You (or Your Partner) a Failure

Jennifer Cullen

Jiffy LubeDoes your partner think that using lubrication reflects negatively on his sexual prowess? Do you feel that using lube is a cop out because you think that your body should be able to produce enough “natural” lubrication?

Well, here’s the reality: using lube is not a negative reflection on your partner's ability to turn you on or on your sexuality.

Because here’s a news flash: a new study finds that women who use lube during sex experience higher levels of not just pleasure, but also satisfaction.

Women use lube for all sorts of reasons:

  • To alleviate vaginal dryness with causes ranging from side effects of certain medications, changes in our bodies as we age, and even suffering from slight dehydration.
  • In order to add vaginal moisture during an extended sexual encounter to decrease friction that can be irritating and cause chafing.
  • When your body just can’t keep up with your mind. You’re turned on emotionally but your body isn’t producing lube at the same rate.
  • To help your partner keep his thrusting rhythm smoother and to make it easier to vary his motions.

There are so many different types of lube to choose from: vegan, flavored, warming, and even tingling. Most lubricants are either water, oil, or silicone-based, but read the labels before you buy because some types may be better for certain situations. For example, it isn't recommended to use silicone-based lube with silicone sex toys.

If you've never used lube as an enhancement to your sex life, make it something to try for the new year. And stop thinking of it as something that makes your sexual experience less of a success. While you're at it, also stop thinking that incorporating sex toys into your sexual encounters makes your relationship less intimate or meaningful.

Mix it up a bit. Keep your partner always wondering what you have up your sleeve!


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