Zac & Vanessa: Never Marry Your First Love

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Young loveYoung love. It’s a beautiful thing. Until it's not. Until a few weeks ago, High School Musical's Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens were the poster kids for young love. Together for what counts as forever in Hollywood (3 or 5 years depending on who you believe), they have basically grown up together. Zac is 23 and Vanessa just celebrated her 22nd birthday. As a single woman in Las Vegas.

And we thought it would last.

What about Katie Holmes, before Tom Cruise jumped on Oprah’s couch declaring his love for her? The former Dawson's Creek star dated American Pie's Chris Klein from the age of 20 and got engaged after being together for 5 years. A year later, the two broke off their engagement. Together for 6 years.

But can young love really be true love? In Hollywood and elsewhere?

I think the answer is no for the majority of people. Maybe that's why, when I hear stories of couples whose young love has matured in to a lifetime of love, it makes me feel all warm inside.

One of the reasons why so few young relationships last? Because the years between teenager and young adult are probably one of the biggest times for change; emotionally, physically and intellectually.

I never experienced young love. I guess you could say I was a late bloomer. I didn’t have my first love until I was a junior in college. The relationship didn’t last longer than two years but the love sure felt real to me.

And if I look around at my family, friends and neighbors, only a very small elite group of them married their first loves or even their young loves. The ones that did still seem pretty happy to me 20 plus years later.

Zac and Vanessa made it pretty long. An eternity compared to other young Hollywood stars. I guess they just outgrew each other. I think it’s the rare young couple that is mature enough, that knows themselves well enough, to be a young love that lasts. With so many life changes at that age, you have to be able to change together. But it’s possible. 

Do you believe that young love can be true love?

 

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