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If and when my girlfriends ever get a divorce, instead of coming over with a pint of Ben & Jerry's and a listening ear, I'll throw them a divorce party, similar to the bachelorette party I threw for them a few years before, complete with a "Newly Single" sash.
That's because divorces are becoming so common, they're now considered a "life milestone," as if it were comparable to marriage, having children, etc.
Is it me or is that just sad?
I understand that a woman will want to celebrate her newfound independence after a crappy marriage, but it seems extreme to turn it into a spectacle. There is an entire industry marketed to celebrating divorce: divorce rings, divorce photographers, divorce registries, and even divorce ceremonies.
It's becoming the new wedding.
Sure divorce has this taboo attached with it, as if it's something to be ashamed of, which it's not. Sometimes things just don't work out. But to expect others to drop cash just because you are cast into the single world again sounds selfish and egotistical. When my friends get married, I tack their save-the-dates onto my fridge, party the night away for their bachelorette parties, fly across the country for their big day, and have no problem with spending money for a piece of fine china. But to ask me to do that again because you're getting a divorce?
I'm pretty sure the ones that are turning divorce into a party comparable to a wedding are the same ones that were in love with "getting married" not "being married." You know those girls. The bridezillas that demanded everyone's attention be on them, not just on their big day but throughout the entire wedding planning process. They loved being the center of attention, but once those I do's were said and the honeymoon was over, they were faced with "till death do we part," and that's not nearly as fun. But now with divorce becoming such a celebration in itself, they can have the spotlight on them once again.
What do you think about celebrating a divorce like a wedding?
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