4 Holiday Talks to Have Now to Avoid a Fight Later

Emily Abbate
Love & Sex
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Communication. It's just one word. With five measly syllables. But it's important. Vital even. And similar to the quality of your sex life, it can make or break any relationship.

Especially around the holidays.

They don't call it the most wonderful time of the year for nothing; there's no reason that miscommunication should make a time for celebration hectic and bothersome.

In between seeking out the best pumpkin cheesecake recipe on the web for dessert and figuring out which way you want to cook your Thanksgiving turkey, check out these crucial conversations for an easier and happier holiday season.

Question #1: What does your family usually wear?

If there's ever a time you don't want to be under-dressed, it's when you're trying to impress your loved one's family. Just because your Thanksgiving "dinner" is at 2 p.m. doesn't necessarily mean it's a holiday casual dress code. Not to mention, the two of you should look complementary. If one person's in dress slacks and the other's in jeans -- you may regret the awkward family photos later.

Question #2: How much are we spending?

There are different types of gift-givers and gift-receivers. While some people are specific about what they want, knowing well how much the item may cost -- others would rather turn a blind eye and be surprised.

I know, the gifts aren't all about how much they cost, but it's a question that could keep things realistic for you both. Having a hard time making ends meet after losing a job? Then putting a $50 budget on your buys may be a reasonable (and sanity saving) idea.

Question #3: Your house or mine?

Holiday time is a time for family to travel from far and wide to eat, drink, and be merry. With that said, it's essential to understand the importance of making it to events on both sides. Don't just expect them to show up, and if it's important to you, then say so. If you decide to do Thanksgiving at your Aunt Karen's, then compromise and spend Christmas Eve somewhere else.

Question #4: Who's staying sober?

It's a small factor, but an important one. If you're traversing the state for your grandmother's annual Thanksgiving extravaganza, either make plans to stay nearby or pick the designated driver. I'm not saying that one (or both) of you is going to be drinking, but at a time of year where there are so many delicious holiday cocktails, it's smart (and safe) to plan ahead.

What are some questions you'll be asking your man this holiday season?


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