Scheduling sex sounds like a romance sucker if there ever was one. But ladies, don't knock it until you've tried it.
If it works for Cindy Crawford, it can work for you.
Yes, Cindy Crawford, super gorgeous mama married to slightly less super gorgeous but still passably sexy Rande Gerber. She says they set aside one night each week for sex to ensure their 12-year marriage doesn't go stale. That makes her one of the 45 percent of Americans who admit to setting a date for doing the deed.
Hey, if they can do it, we can too. Now we just have to figure out how to make it more romantic than it sounds:
1. Clear the House. If you're keeping the kinky limited to one night, make it worth your while. Find out when Grandma can keep the kids, and you can guarantee a night for just the two of you.
2. Sync Your (Biological) Clocks. Simply planning for a time when you know the kids will be in bed or out of the house isn't good enough. Figure out what really works for your partner. If he's a morning person, go to bed early one night so you'll be nookie-ready in the a.m. If you've got a big proposal due at work on Monday, tell him Sunday night's just not going to cut it ... but maybe you can celebrate afterward?
3. Get Creative. Spontaneous sex has its place, but planning ahead gives you the chance to organize your props. Buy sex toys. Bring in the edibles. Coat the bed in rose petals. Do something with that extra time!
4. Bring on the Foreplay. If you're sneaking five minutes in the morning while the kids are still sleeping, chances are you're not hitting up all the erogenous zones. Scheduled sex should be slated for a good chunk of time -- when you'll be able to fully take advantage of everything that makes your partner scream.
5. Don't Expect Too Much. The Kinsey Institute estimates most married couples are having sex just a few times a month. So don't pressure yourselves. If all you end up doing is a good cuddle, at least you've recharged your batteries. Besides -- the only way to bring the fun of spontaneity back to "scheduled sex" is to throw out the rules.
Do you schedule sex?
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