One of the hardest things about my divorce was how isolated I felt going through the process. It wasn't just that I found myself alone after many years of being married. It was also the fact that I didn't know anyone else who was divorced -- or even considering divorce -- that made my situation all the more lonely. Not only was I sad and scared, but I also felt like there was something wrong with me because I was going through a painful thing that very few people I knew had experienced.
I think that's why I've been so intrigued by the HuffPo Divorce project, the new project with Nora Ephron at its helm.
When I was going through my divorce, I had some really desperate nights when in a fruitless attempt to feel better, I found myself Googling stuff like "divorce support" and "what happens after divorce" and "will I ever feel better after divorce or am I destined for a lifetime of drudgery and despair and how do I know when it's time to just give up and get a house-full of cats." I know you are going to be shocked by this, but unfortunately not much turned up from these searches.
But a lot comes up on the HuffPo Divorce page. Stuff like dating after divorce and child support issues and celebrities talking about their divorce -- all things that helped me feel better even if I sometimes found the material to be a little frivolous.
Many writers have pointed out that the site treats the topic of divorce a little too flippantly. In particular, Joanne Bamberger wrote a really fascinating piece about the fact that it leaves out the more serious side of divorce -- and I entirely agree with that critique and hope that the project will come to include more intense subject matter as well.
Until then, however, I find myself going back again and again to the new site. If it succeeds in anything, it's that it normalizes divorce in a way that is entertaining and funny but compassionate, too. And sometimes that's really all you need to feel a little less alone.
What do you think of the new Huffington Post Divorce page?
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