Low Sex Drive -- Not Always a Problem

Amy Kuras
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boudoirYou can't turn on your TV or pick up a magazine without thinking everybody is having frequent, awesome, unbelievably mind-blowing sex all the time; and when they aren't, they want to be.

For some women, though, sex is just not that big a deal -- and that's treated as shamefully as having a very active sex drive once was. It's not that there's anything wrong with them or they don't like sex; they generally like it quite a bit once they get going (called "responsive desire"). But the active desire and pursuit of it? Meh.

Some research is suggesting that women with chronically low sex drives have different brain activity than women whose libido is always stoked. Others, though, suggest that maybe, just maybe, low sex drive is only a problem if you make it one.

Of course, it's a problem if it significantly bothers the person whose sex drive is low, or just as importantly if it really bothers their partner, causing problems in the relationship. If depression or relationship issues are swamping a woman's desire, that's also a problem that needs to be addressed before she gets her groove back.

But the problem with classifying low sex drive that exists all by itself as a disorder, some say, is saying there's some objective "normal" amount to have sex. For some people, twice a day might be normal; for others, once a month might be just fine. We all like different things in bed, right? So why would we want to be there the same amount? If the person is satisfied with the amount she has sex, and her partner feels the same, and they both have a really good time when it does happen, what's the problem?

Is low sex drive really a disorder that needs fixing?


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