Want Better Sex? Open Your Mouth!


Ladies: Stop faking orgasms! Now! Just stop! You're giving men the wrong idea ...

A recent New York Post article suggests that most men -- 85 percent, in fact -- believe they satisfied their woman even when they most certainly didn't. Only 64 percent of women say their last roll in the hay ended in an orgasm.

The Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University conducted the study, which interviewed 5,865 Americans ages 14 to 94 about their sexual habits, and they found that, yes, men really are as clueless as we all thought ... just kidding. Not really.

Ladies, if it is not working for you, speak up! Faking an orgasm means you're partially to blame for the bad sex.

Want better sex? Communicate!

We can debate all day about whether an orgasm is needed to make sex mutually satisfying. I'm firmly in the camp that feels it's necessary. I've had good sex without one, but toe-curling, screaming, come back for more sex only happens when we both get to finish.

There are some women who cannot have vaginal orgasms from intercourse alone and others who can. It's a controversial topic, to be sure. But either way, there are techniques and steps a man can take toward not completely striking out in the bedroom. And we ladies can help him get there if we put our big girl pants on.

Instead of pretending like everything is fantabulous, tell him, "This is not working for me." Say it in front of a mirror to practice.

If you don't like that, try positive reinforcement: "I really like it when you" or just moan and say, "Keep going, just like that ..."

Also, send non-verbal clues. Move your body away if something doesn't work and lean in when it does. If your man is astute, he will get it.

We can't expect a guy to actually be good in bed if we don't speak up. Don't like it when he wears his black dress socks to bed? Then by all means, tell him! Don't just hate it and complain to your girlfriends while he thinks he's a total stud.

That makes you complicit! Let's not stand for it. Be honest. Be brave. And you will get better sex for your effort.

What do you do to get better sex?


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LyTe684 LyTe684

Totally agreed. LOL

Ms601 Ms601

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nonmember avatar Gill Bates

Any woman who fakes it is self defeating. If the guy cannot tell the difference he will think he was doing the right thing - and will continue.

If a woman let's a guy know that she didn't reach orgasm then he should and probably would try something different.

People need to learn about each other - what each other likes and dislikes, faking it is dis-information and messes up the learning process.

nonmember avatar nonmember

I wholheartedly disagree.. Too many are running their yap like a nonstop motor in the first place.. Whenever they hit the bed for some action they should just lay there & take it.. Their mouth should open mainly to suck the man's Penis.. IF HE decides to ejaculate into their mouth they are certainly welcome to open it again after they swallow all of his semen..

nonmember avatar whatever

That was just a dumb a** thing to say. I pity any woman who is fooled into bed with you."just lay in bed and take it"?? Does anyone else think that sounds on the same page as abuse? Maybe you should be the one to lay there and take it over and over when you can't enjoy it.

Rita Allee

LOL when I first saw this headline, I thought the story was going to be about oral sex...as in going down on your partner.

Next time try to fix the title if you don't want people getting the wrong idea

Warri... WarriorsWife523

Fantastic article!

I get not wanting to hurt his ego, but you can help things improve without doing that. Tell him what you DO like, not only what you don't. :)

DH and I have amazing sex because we talk about it. A lot. Lol.HE knows what I like, I know what he likes, and if we don't like something, we talk about it so we don't keep doing it. Lol.

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