My husband has never been out of my sight for more than 24 hours.
And we're about to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary.
Make all the leash jokes you'd like. This is our "rule."
Don't you have one?
A super-scientific survey (OK, I put up a Facebook status) shows most couples have one rule, like:
- Don't go to bed angry.
- DO go to bed angry -- you need time to sleep it off.
- Never use the word "divorce" unless you really are ready to walk out the door.
- If you don't have anything nice to say, just keep your mouth shut.
In our case, it's the 24-hour rule.
It has nothing to do with trust (or the lack thereof) and everything to do with comfort. I can't sleep without my husband in the house -- even if I know he's safely at work or out at the movies.
There's our history too. We were in a long distance relationship for the bulk of our "courtship," and the goodbyes were horrible. I spent more than one six-hour train ride waffling between sobbing and feeling completely alone.
I like how the concept affects our daughter. As a kid we rarely were able to vacation with both parents -- because our school vacations coincided with my dad's busiest season at work. My parents vacation together now, their calendars no longer ruled by their kids, but I can't imagine that time apart was any fun for them.
It wasn't always fun for us -- my mom was stressed, we missed our dad. We were lucky to get a vacation, but kids like a family together too.
It's hard to maintain -- an upcoming long weekend out of town for work has me sweating bullets -- but a 10-year stint isn't bad.
And here's something to give me hope: in 29 years of marriage, Linda and Paul McCartney only spent one night apart. Even with his touring schedule, even with the birth of their kids.
Do you have a "rule" in your relationship?
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