Lady Gaga Just Says No to Casual Sex and So Do I

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Lady Gaga's sex life is fodder for the tabloids and grist for the rumor mill. But in real life, is Gaga far more of a "lady" than anyone suspects?

In a recent interview, the star known for her hyper-sexualized antics and lyrics like "I want to take a ride on your disco stick" and "I'm not bluffin' with my muffin" revealed to AMP Radio that casual sex is not her thing.

"I have weird superstitions about sex. If you're not having sex with someone who really cares about you or who really loves you they can screw up your energy,” she said.

I couldn't agree more! It all goes to my theory that the people who are the most open about sex and most willing to communicate about it are also the ones who respect it the most.

I am someone who has always talked very openly about sex. I find sex fascinating on many different levels, and I have no compunction about trying new things and playing with ideas of gender roles and experimenting. But I do those things with one partner whom I love and know better than anyone in the world.

I define casual sex as the kind that's shared between two people who are strangers and who have no relationship outside of the bedroom. For me, that includes "friends with benefits" or any kind of sexual relationship that doesn't include love or the potential for love.

I think sex is powerful, like sharing a piece of your soul with someone else, so when I think about treating that casually, it makes me kind of nauseous.

My true confession? I've never slept with a man that didn't love me or whom I didn't love in some way.

I know in this day and age that's weird, especially since I'm now in my early 30s, but I've always been very careful with that part of myself. For all my talk and my willingness to explore, multiple partners have never been on the menu.

It isn't that I judge it necessarily. I do think there are people who can have sex casually, but it's just not for me. When you have sex with someone, you let a piece of them inside of your body. Forget all of the stuff about STDs and safety. Those things matter, of course, but I'm more concerned with what it does to the psyche.

It's normal to feel connected and close to a man after you share that kind of intimacy and I sometimes feel like women today are expected to ignore that part of themselves so we can @#~ like a man!

I say forget that. I don't want either my son or my daughter treating sex that way and I would never treat it that way myself. My husband and I have a quirky relationship and we communicate about every little thing that crosses our mind -- what we dreamt about, who we think is cute, what we want for dinner, the interesting news article that made us think, what our bosses said to us that day.

He knows me better than anyone. He knows what makes me laugh and what pushes my buttons. He knows my weaknesses and he knows my flaws. I cannot imagine giving myself sexually to anyone who didn't appreciate me as a whole human being, flaws and all.

To me, that's what sex is all about. It's an acceptance of another person, a desire to share one body for a period of time and that's just way too intense to give to a stranger.

I have never had casual sex and since I have been with the same man for 10 years (and hopefully for a million more to come), I never will.

What do you think of "casual sex"?

 

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JesssM JesssM

Not everyone feels a postcoital emotional connection. I had a few years during which my sex drive was really high, and I often wanted to have sex w/ another person rather than masturbate. I was clear with my partners that it was just sex, nothing more.  I definitely don't regret it.  Maybe it's not for everyone, but it was great for me. (Seriously, afterwards I'd often say something like, "Wow, thanks, that was great. I'm gonna jump in the shower and then go read, OK?" 

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