5 Ways to Have Sex Without Having Sex


passionate kissThere are times in life that something happens when you can't have sex with your partner. Pregnancy, postpartum, injury, or even when you have your period ... if you aren't into sex when Aunt Flo is around.

That's when you have to get creative. You can have sex without technically having the traditional definition of sex.

And dare I say it's sometimes even better than sex!


Because you are still engaged, still connected, still doing something passionate together. Sometimes penetration is overrated. And sometimes having sex without having sex is a kinky way to switch things up a bit in your love den. Here are five ways to do it ....

1. Masturbate together. If one of you cannot do the deed, the other one can still take matters into their own hands while the other is watching. If you can both masturbate together, then go for it! Have you ever seen your partner reach orgasm while you were just an innocent onlooker? It's hot. I highly suggest you try it sometime. One time, he can do it. Then the next time, you can. 

2. Have oral sex. Oral isn't just the appetizer to sex -- it can be the whole meal. And I don't know about you, but I love when my man takes his time downtown. Like double-digit minutes kind of time. And if you didn't get the male memo already, he likes you to spend some time down there. It doesn't matter who is getting or giving oral, what matters is that it is done with that ravenous lust you had when you first started getting it on.

3. Let your hands and mouth roam. Kissing too often falls victim in long-term relationships. Pop a mint, make it fresh, and make out. Kiss his neck, lick his nipples, nibble on his ear, squeeze his butt -- pretend it's prom night and you had a pact not to do it in the limo but you still had to steam up the windows.

4. Watch a sexy movie together. If you can't do it, the next best thing is watching other people doing it. It will still get your loins hot and your partner will be right there next to you, getting all hot and bothered, too. Take mental notes and reenact the scene when sex gets the green light.

5. Write down a fantasy and read to each other. Words can be an aphrodisiac ... especially words written by your mate. Especially carefully chosen words that describe sexual acts they want to do with you. Explore your kinky side, even if the naughtiness will only be a fantasy. It's always hot to hear and express those dirty desires. 

Have you tried any of these? How do you have sex without having sex?


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nonmember avatar Araceli

Im sure when she said have sex without having sex it meant without having ACTUAL INTERCOURSE you people need to stop being so hateful.

nonmember avatar man

masturbate together? kinda kills the whole reason your around! oral sex causes mouth cancer and my fantasy is to be a king your article sucks!

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Especially when you get older , writing down you fantasies and reading the same to your partner mutually  will  provide   a good spark to a relishing love play!

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